How Do I Find A Way To Help me Deal With The Loss Of My Dad?

you are doing everything right so far, keep talking, and most of all keep his memory close to you. I would like to tell you that the pain will go away in x amount of months, but that is not the truth. take the time to remember him, and if you feel like crying- do it!!! there is no set standard of time for mourning, it could take you years for the pain to ease. obviously he was a very important part of your life. he is, was, and will always be a part of you and who you are. so cry your eyes out, anything that will help ease the pain. just don’t repress your feelings- don’t hold that pain back - let it out. mourning is part of being human. it shows that we are able to remember and feel. gradually you will learn to deal with the pain, the tears will be fewer, and instead of remembering what you have lost, you will begin remembering the happy moments the two of you shared. he was your dad, so he will always be with you and in everything you do. let it out, be strong, and always remember him. it will get easier with time.

awww jesus thats horrible I lost my nana not too long ago, what I do is go to the grave now and then and talk as if she’s stood there by my side. If you and your dad did something special together then, you continue to do what he loves and show that you love him.

I’m so sorry for you

deeling with a loved ones passing is hard but you have to know that your dad still loves you and he always will, and he wouldn’t want you to be depressed no matter what. I hope this helps :)

I’m sorry. I think keeping him in your thoughts is okay though it may hurt some. It’s like he is still hanging around by you thinking about him. He loves you. You will meet again.

if you need to talk to a counselor do it, its nothing to be ashamed of! Most likely he or she will just let you talk and talk and he will help you with the grieving process.

my dad passed away too. he died May 24, 95. 3 days before my First bday. I don’t remember him. but I get upset a lot of times. & I’ve lost many loved ones. I lost a friend; he got hit by a 18 wheeler. bout april. & 2 more of my friends died in a car accident. the month after my other friend did. & I get upset a lot. its nothing to be ashamed about. I mean everyone crys to loose a loved one. one of my friends that died. he was only in 8th grade when he died. &he was the star athlete. the 10th grade football coach askd for him to join there team. but yeah. the whole football team cried when it happend. I miss all of them.

I personally haven’t had to face this yet, but it makes me strive to be closer to my parents, to never let something remain unsaid, you never know when you might lose someone. so I let my parents know I love them every time we talk on the phone. something like this has the positive effect of bringing us closer to those special people that we still have around us, I believe that you will find this is true as well. let everyone you love know it- never leave that unsaid- and let them know you appreciate them in your life, they will be your strength in the dark times - so stay around people. keep your chin up.

Be sure that he is with you every moment, and he is looking at you and he doesn’t want to see you sad.

Hi Kay. I lost my Mom on Thanksgiving morning 6 years ago shortly after I just turned 18. It was very hard but opening up to my brothers and sisters (8 kids) was one of the best ways to heal b/c only they knew exactly how I felt and siblings share a special bond with you. My Dad basically up and left my little brothers and a little sister (12) to the older brother and sisters shortly after.

I ended up taking my little sister in to take care of her. It was so hard for me to accept the fact that she was gone and I felt that my youth was taken away from me because I had to take my Mother’s place. I had to remind myself everytime she rebelled that I was her sister but I couldn’t help but to act like a mother. I was very hurt and cried a lot but I found my number one healing… God.

Once I learned how to accept my Mother’s death and forgive my Father, the healing started. I miss her but I can say I lost her now without a tear in my eye. Start healing with God. Keep in mind that it is not easy and it does take time. I’m sorry for your loss. If you have any siblings, please open up to them b/c they may have deep pain they’re hidding inside as well. By opening up to them, you’re also doing them a favor. No matter what, the only thing you can do wrong at this point is to stop talking about it. Talk about it as much as possible.

Take care.

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Awww Im So Sorry For Your Loss!!

xxx