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How can I tell my parents I could be pregnant by a guy they hate?

Sorry this will be long. Me and this guy went out for about 8 months. Well my mom found out that he used to smoke weed and she made me break up with him and banned him from me and went like crazy. Well we started talking in january again and now I think I’m pregnant by him. Like I’m about 97% sure. How should I tell my parents? And if you are a parent, how would you react to all of this? My parents completely trust me, I’ve never been grounded, I go to church 3 times a week and am a volunteer in more than 1 thing a week there and I’m in the top 10% in my junior class and have a high rank in our drill team. So I’m not a bad kid, I’m the best out of four. Just..what would you say to your kid? And what should I say to them to tell them?

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Answer #1

As ty said, you must 100% sure that you are pregnant before speaking to your parents. But let us assume that you are indeed 100% sure.

First of all, before the discussion with your parents, you have to decide whether or not you would like to keep the baby. Keep in mind the huge costs of such a decision (keeping the child)- financial, emotional, physical- and also think about whether or not the father can execute his parental duties.

When this has been thought through thoroughly, approaching your parents is the next step. How you should do this? I do not know your parents and thus, cannot tell you exactly how they react. But, as they disapproved of this boy from the beginning, I think it logical to say that they will be:

  • angry
  • hurt

The words are not the most important thing here- what really matters is the way you act. They must see that you are sorry and truly unhappy at having angered them, and are ready to accept any punishment that they give you. Also, if you decide to keep the child, you must show yourself to be serious, dedicated and 100% unwilling to change your mind, despite knowing the difficulties associated with the situation.

Calm is key. Good luck.

Answer #2

Ditto to ty’s answer about being 100% sure before you say a word.

It sounds like you have a close family, so if it turns out that you are, expect them to be pissed at first, and disappointed in you…then they will be supportive. I hope you aren’t…and that you learn something from this.

If you are a responsible girl (like it sounds)…then get some protection!!!

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Answer #3

You need to not be 97% sure. You need to be 100% sure before giving your parents a heart attack. So, first, go to a clinic like planned parenthood and get a test done.

Answer #4

Would you want to keep the baby if you are pregnant? If you do wanna keep it, you’re gonna have to prepare for the worst. Tell your parents something along the lines of, “Mom, dad, I’m pregnant. With (Guy’s Name)’s child. I know you’re upset with me. I’m really sorry, but I’d like to keep this baby. I hope that you would support me in this. I love you guys so much, and I want you here with me when I do this.”

Good luck hun :] & get as much support as you can from your friends and think about it carefully. Do you really want to keep the baby? and Are you independent enough to raise the baby alone? ♥

Answer #5

you need to tell them soon before they find out

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