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How can I stop My Dad from Verbally Abusing me?

My Dad is A Stress Addict ,he needs his Stress and he looks for any Reason to get mad. He only Yells and Screams at me for some reason. He is almost 60 years old and he throws temper Fits like a 3 year old, Slamming doors ect.. Calls me a Bi@#H everything… and I have not done anything wrong… I know better then to say somthing that he wont like.. because he will flip his boat over that.. Yesterday he got mad at me (and is threating to move out ) because we were talking about what SoapScum is and I told him its because of minerals and hard water.. and he thinks its only because of Dirt and that it cant happen if you take a bath ( because he only takes baths ) really Stupid right? I know.. this kinda stuff happens everyday of my life.. and he always threatens to move out (its just me and him) but the funny thing is he never does.. and I really wish he would.. its just a scare-tactic or somthing… I have no body that can help me with this problem.. and he wont even go take anger managment…

back ground information on my dad : -has post tramatic stress disorder -was in the vietnam war

personally I dont think he deserves to be a parent, he acts like a child… please help.. you can email me at AMBLERONE@gmail.com

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Answer #1

Anger issues are common in War vets. Also sound a lot like Borderline Personality Disorder. Is there a relative that you can talk that will convince him about seeing a therapist? This is something you cannot fix on your own by just talking to him.

Answer #2

I no how that goes my dad is the same way..sometimes it really hurts..I wanna say I no how to stop it but I dont but iam always here to talk

Answer #3

girl teel somonhe could get itoube and then you could lve with someone else so tell someone I am so sorry for u

Answer #4

Why can’t you tell him you want him to move out?

Answer #5

Since one of the facts of life is…”you cannot change others”…then you’re going to have to work on yourself…and you need TOOLS to do that. Please talk to a school counselor…see if you can get hooked up with a family counselor.

You seem to be a smart girl…you have insight to the fact that he’s being incredbly immature, but you also understand that his history may be playing a part in his inability to control himself.

I know it would be wonderful if he’d join you in family counseling and become a real “father”, but that may not happen…the next best thing you can do is take care of yourself, emotionally. Understand that he’s not really talking to you or the issue (soapscum)…but some old unresolved problem that is HIS…and his alone.

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