How can I let her know I'm not interested?

So this girl at my work is 17 and I’m 19. One day she asked me if I wanted to go with her to this amusement park by my house and I agreed cause it was cheap and sounded like fun. We had a pretty good time.

So a few weeks later I asked her if she wanted to do something else, just for fun. (I called it a date, but I was talking a strictly friend type of date. You know, ‘so it’s a date.’ kind of thing.) And she said maybe some other time. I didn’t think much of it at the time, until another friend from work told me that this girl thinks I’m in love with and/or obsessed with her.

Now that’s so far from the truth you’d have to have a telescope to see it. (She’s completely the opposite of my type, but I just sometimes enjoyed her company. Well… until now anyway.) So how can I let her know that she’s totally jumping to conclusions, and how I only want to be just friends, exactly like she wants?

I know most people will say, ‘just tell her straight up.’ and I plan to do that. But perhaps somebody has a more creative way where I don’t have to get my hands so dirty? Any and all advice is appreciated. Thanks in advance!

Answer #1

Oddly enough, I’m in the exact reverse of your situation. I’m a guy who jumped to conclusions about a girl. It ended badly for me. People who jump to conclusions about others, and then who are told the truth feel really bad in the beginning, and blame themselves, and others, but they will get over it.

I’m afraid you will have to get your hands dirty, no other option. You don’t tell her now, soon you will have a large problem on your hands. The sooner you tell her, the sooner you can get over with it. Delay it for a month, that’s a month’s worth of assumptions she will make about you, and most of them are bound to be wrong. My girl, in particular, never told me - she just kept hinting, and hinting, and I misinterpreted her hints. So don’t hint at all - just say it straight out - it’ll be better for both of you.

Answer #2

You can always ‘’wash’’ your hands after they get dirty :).

I’m getting this notion that you want to find another way around this problem besides simply telling her. That can work out a bit but I think it’s best that you just stick to being honest. What you can do is, if you have any more friends that are girls (I’m pretty sure you do, your quite attractive – don’t take that the wrong way) you can hang out with them. She is bound to notice that or at least hear from a friend of hers somewhere.

You can always turn the truth into something playful as well. While telling her that she has it all wrong about you, you can try and establish a better friendship. It doesn’t have to be a serious conversation, it could be humorous as well. I would stick to telling the truth, it’s the easiest way to solutionize problems! Don’t forget too remind her that you like spending time with her as a friend, nothing more. That way she doesn’t get the wrong idea!

Hope this helps and good luck!

Answer #3

That all sounds quite reasonable. I’m not afraid to tell her like it is, I just wish there was a way I could do it without appearing like a jackass or in some sort of denial. But I guess there’s no other way. Thanks a lot. =)

Answer #4

she sounds pretty self-involved if she thinks your in love with her after just hanging maybe you could pretend to like another girl (that she doesn’t know) and ask her about relationship advice but lying tends to get messy just say that your glad you can be friends with her without there being any romantic feelings between you.

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