How can I get over him?

okay so, I’ve been talking to this guy for a looong time now, and I think im in love with him… but lately we’ve been having problems. he won’t tell his friends about us talking or anything.. I’ve been trying to get over him & move on, but I just cant… he’s a complete jerk to me, makes fun of me in front of his friends ; and calls me names & stuff … but then he always says something sweet to me, & apologizes then I fall for him all over… … advice on getting over him?

Answer #1

you are in an emotionally abusive relationship. (right now you’re telling yourself you’re not, that he always says he’s sorry and can be sweet, right?). quit lying to yourself. it sounds like you’re worried you’ll never have another boyfriend. you will. and they will treat you with so much more respect than this jerk.

tell him to stop talking to you…erase his number from your cell phone, take him off of your instant messenger, delete his email…completely get rid of him from your life. you will find such better hapiness in another guy, but you won’t be able to do that until you get rid of this jerk that is hurting you.

Answer #2

ps: heather, you are a beautiful girl. why are you letting this guy control you? he’s totally got you wrapped around his finger. cut all ties with him.

Answer #3

um well I know getting over someone is hard to do trust me. My advice for you is to give it some time. To my knowledge some girls go through this bad boy phase where they treat you bad and yet you girls still fall for them. So don’t worry my ex told me when she was going through that phase. The guy treated her bad as well he was a complete jerk with her as well and yet she fell for the same guy time after time. Another opinion is to date someone that treats you better than this guy my ex told me thank you for showing her how much better she is without him and that she deserves better that. Well even though we are not together I know deep down inside I know I am the person who had changed her life. We still have a good friendly relationship with one another. so I hope this helps you out.

Answer #4

wow girl if I was you I would tell him to grow the heck up and move on it mite be hard but you can do it ikno u

Answer #5

Dear heather_michele, You are not ready to date anyone till you get your self-esteem on track. No one takes that type of abuse who doesn’t have a problem. You need to speak with your school counsellor or your parents about this. What he is doing is very wrong and he also needs therapy. This is not how normal people behave. You must stop seeing him and do not have contact with him. The next step is to start hitting you…he is very close to doing this…it’s a pattern we often see with abusers. Sue…good luck

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