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How can I get my ex back?

okay, here’s the story.

my ex and i were together a little over two years. it was on and off. but between our last “breakup” last december, i started talking to some other guy. we were seeing eachother and my ex knew about it. i realized what i did was wrong because i still loved my ex, so i told the guy we should stop talking. and then i decided to get back with my ex. okay so now its what?… august, and someone told my ex that i did “it” with the guy i was with in december. i kept denying it. but he just knew i was lying so i had to admit it. he told me that we’re done! and he doesn’t want to see me ever again. he dont answer any of my calls, reply to any of my texts, and when i would go over his house to see/talk to him, he’d tell me to leave or he’d put a restraining order on me. like wth?! i mean, yess i know i fcked up. i know i shouldn’t have done that. and i am really sorry. its not like i cheated on him. but still… he doesn’t want anything to do with me! he does believe me that i am sorry and that i still love him though, but why isn’t he giving me another chance?!! what am i supposed to do now? i still love him. i want him back. but how do i get him back?

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Answer #1

You really can’t do anything right now the ball is in his court so to speak. First of all you need to give him some SPACE. You calling him and showing up all the time isn’t going to to magically change his mind. Even though the two of you weren’t together you didn’t cheat, but at the same time when confronted about the issue you lied to his face. He knew that you dated this other guy, but if the two of you had something “special” and you were that “in love” maybe he didn’t expect you to sleep with the other guy so fast. He might have assumed the two of you would get back together at some point. Being honest with you, he might get over and he might not so start preparing yourself either way.

Answer #2

Even though you are no longer with your ex, sleeping with another guy when you supposedly still love him, is the reason he doesnt want you back! Also, lying is a BIG no, no!! Understandable, because my ex did the very same thing you did. I didnt want him anymore after that. If he truly still loved me, he wouldnt have had s*x with someone else! We all handle things differently. I am a strong person, and i want to find a guy who knows the true meaning of love! I wont settle for anything less then what i deserve! Ever heard the saying, “you made your bed, now lie in it”. Meaning>You made a decision and now must accept its consequences. Sometimes we just have to learn things the hard way! You cant get someone back, when they dont want to come back. Your better off moving on, and just accept it as a loss!

Answer #3

Dear ifckdup, Sorry, there isn’t going to be a way to change his mind. He has it made up that it’s over and you’re going to have to respect his wishes. Trying to get him back will only make things worse for you. He, with time may think differently but if you continue to try to get him back he will only see you as a burden and pest. This would not help your cause. Time to face the fact that he may have moved on in his life and you will have to do the same thing. It’s all part of living and learning the hard way. If the relationship was good in the first place you wouldn’t have broken up. Breaking up is a sign it’s broken and in many cases cannot be repaired. Sue…good luck

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