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My sister-in-law miscarried last night. We aren’t super close, but we meet up once or twice a month to let our kids play together. How should I approach this situation. Ladies, if you have been through this, did you want people talking about it with you, or would you rather be distracted or just left alone? Should I offer to watch her son for a night or two?

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Answer #1

Just let her know that you’re there for her and drop it at that. If she continues the conversation follow her lead.

If I were in the situation of course I’d want some support but I wouldn’t want to be bombarded with it either.

Answer #2

umm I’ve never been prego period..but what I can say is get in her shoes and ask what would I want? and I think id be best just to let her know your there and not to bring it up as much..bc it must b heartbreaking and if I were her I wouldnt want to be reminded about it..

Answer #3

I think you should. She deserves to have a few days to herself.

Answer #4

She would probably feel very comforted to know that you care, and that you’re so sorry it happened. At this time, it may also be difficult for her to be around new babies or pregnant people.

She may also relate a lot more to women who have gone through this. It’s a sadness that one can’t imagine. Bring her a cheery bunch of bright yellow flowers. A hug and a few shared tears will not hurt either.

Answer #5

Give her space. THe key here is to allow her to express HERSELF. So be friendly. Visit more often. Offer to help with her son. And when she does talk (about anything as she may be testing you first), LISTEN, really listen. BUT Dont offer advice unless she asks for it. THis is a mistake too many people make in circumstances like death, miscarraige etc.

She needs counceling even if she may not think so. And a councelor who can tell you how many similar case studies she / he had had.

My thoughts are with your families.

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