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Ok my bestfriend of 8 years. is 17 she’ll b 18 in 5 months and she is 8 months pregnant with her second child. her mom told her that as soon as she turns 18 her and atleast one of her kids has to get out. She has somewhere to go but they wont let her child come with her. Since im the god mother of both the kids and they love me and she trusts me she wonts me to take care of the youngest for ab a year until she gets her self together. what should I do??

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Answer #1

Um your not her parent. You shouldn’t be taking care of somone else’s kid. It your friend’s problem for not keeping her legs closed. She needs to be a responsble parent and find a place for her and her 2 kids. Or she needs to give one up for adpotion or even bolth for that matter,so they actually have a chance of life and have a good home. It’s her problem,not yours. I can’t belive she would ask you to take on her kid. It’s her fault for having sex. She needs to grow up and figure out what to do herself. You never know,she could have you take one of the kids and she could take off and you never see/find her again. Then where will you be? And by the way,you can’t just take someone’s child. You would have to adpot it or somthing and her have visting rights. You can’t just take care of someone’s baby for a year. It has to be legalized. And don’t sit there and think,she would never just up and leave or somthing. You don’t know for sure. She needs to be the parent and be muture and figure out what to do on her own. She got herself in this mess.

Answer #2

Your mom has no reason, obligation, nor should she take your friend and her children in. Your friend needs to do some research and find out about group homes, etc. Perhaps putting her child(ren) up for adoption if she does not have the means to care for them.

You can be a good friend and help her by helping her find this information.

Answer #3

well yes thats not such a good idea, but the mother could visit every day

Answer #4

I would take care of the baby if I was you, seems like she does trust you a lot! see the only person I would EVER let take care of my baby for a year is my mom. if my bestfriend asked I would be honored!!!

Answer #5

I personally think it’s a very bad idea to seperate a mom and her kids. If your house is big enough, ask your mom if all 3 of them can stay there until they get on their feet. I’m sure your mom will want to help. Plus, the father should be helping by paying for child support. Good luck.

Answer #6

ok first off she’s not puttin my god-kids up for adoption. I wouldnt be doin this for free she would give me $300 a month. The father is in her and the kids life and takes care of all 3 of them. SHE’S A GREAT MOTHER and her kids will have a great life w/ her my oldest god-daughter is 5 and she’s smart sweet funny caring and loving all thanks to her mother, yeaa she shoulda keep her legs closed but atleast she aint run away from her problems like a lot of teen mooms do, she became a woman an grew up. we all make mistakes and need help somtimes. and im tryna be there for her and help her out

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