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I guess this is a bit of a perosnal problem, but me and my boyfriend of a year got into a huge fight last night about him going out with his friends...
I'm 21 and he's 29. Early on in our relationship I've caught him talking to his ex girlfriends and going behind my back texting them things he shouldn't have been and such. He says he's never followed through with anything... although in past relationships he has.
He's also kept something from me 8 months into our relationship. He has an STD, that I now have.It's nothing serious but before he came out and told me, I specifically asked him if he has been tested, and he told me he had and had nothing. He lied. I now have to fork out 100 dollars a month (that's with insurance) for a disease I never asked for and will have for the rest of my life. He's apoligized over and over, and he was afraid if I knew he had it, that I'd never want to date him. It's hard to say now what I would have done if he told me before we slept together, but maybe I wouldn't have kept dating him and fell in love with him, so I dont know how to take that.
I have been lied to and cheated on in the past, but he is my first real relationship. I'm still young and growing and am not experieced in the relationship scene. Sometiems I feel that he is lying to me, because he has made me question my trust for him.
I want to trust him and I dont' want to jealous. I just dont know how!
Last night he was going to go out with his new work buddies, but I somehow convinced myself he was lying and going someplace else. So it turned into a huge fight and I made him so mad, he didn't go out. I feel like a total idiot now, a day later, and I know I took it way overboard.
Is this because I'm inexperienced in relationships? Do I have any right to be questioning the trust or am I totally wrong? I feel like a crazy person but I know I'm not. I just can't stop thinking about the past. I know he loves me and cares about me. I know I'm a beautiful girl and have a lot to offer. Am I just still too young and immature to understand some things?
Please help with any of this. I'm just trying to take the day and think about it, I just don't know how to fix any of my flaws!
just bkuz he is talkin to his ex that dont mean he is cheating on you I still talk to my x boyfriend and we dont do nutin but going out wit best friend is a no no I feel how bad your boyfriend is in pain kuz if I heard that id been mad sad confused and all that but just talk to each other and speak how you feel he will listen and be there for you and if he go out kall your friend to get that out of your mind and party not think what he is doin stuff you heard bout him can b true but sumtyms you just have to put up wit it my boyfriend was the same I thought he did all of that to me but the std just let go of the past and live up to dis day if you keep worrion den that kan hurt your relationship big tym but its really hard and tell him if he is going to cheat on you or do sumthin like that say pik her or me and he will realize how much he always cared bout you dont let him pull you around make him kum to you tease him so he will love you better it should work if you need more help add me as a friend and message me kuz I no a lot bout dis stuff ok gud luck
I think you should sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel and what your thinking. this way he understands where your coming from, especially when you get mad or crazy or w.e when he says hes going out with friends and you dont believe him. the key to a good relationship is communication
