how doo I makee him no im here and im here forr good.

You said you were going to take the advice of an advisor when she told you to move on! So why are you still asking what to do?

I’m sorry, but trust issues in an on again off again relationship doesnt sound like his problem. Its more like he has commitment issues, and I highly doubt they come from the past. After 3 years, he should know what kind of person you are, and that he can trust you by now. I really think you are being taken for a ride with this guy, and you need to open your eyes. First off, having sex with an ex is a BIG no-no!! Sex does NOT equal love, and hes already told you he doesnt love you like he used to. Sex will NOT magically make him fall in love with you again, and it will NOT magically put a broken relationship back together! Sex doesnt prove a thing, and they ONLY thing that you are going to be setting yourself up for is for more heartache. Sex should NEVER be handed out for free to an ex. If you werent good enough to stay with, then he shouldnt be getting all the benefits most guys have to be in a relationship to get for free! STOP GIVING HIM SEX!!! This is NOT good for your self esteem, and its only going to hurt you twice as much when you realize he is JUST using you!!

You need to tell him how you are feeling and what this is doing to your life. If he truly cares for you, he will not want to continue this type of situation. he will want to have only the best for you. If he is not worried about how you feel and what this is doing to you, then you will know that he truly does not care for you at all and it is only a physical feeling. This is when you need to sever the ties and move on from this person permanently. Do not accept phone calls, mail, or see him in any way. Make it clear to him that your relationship is over and that you have to move on. You need to start new relationships and go out more. Find a friend that you can go out with. Take in movies, go out to eat and play miniature golf. You need to experience the rest of the world and not be afraid to find another relationship that you can progress with when the time is right.

I know I said I was gonna take some ones advice but its too hard.. I cant not get it into my head I just don’t want too soo no too himm =[