help telling my parents about new friend that is a girl

Hi, I really need help. I have this really good friend who is a girl (im a guy obviously). We are not officialy boyfriend and girlfriend yet. I was just browsing on Yahoo Personals one day to kill time and I ran across her profile. She is 22 and I’m 18. Four years in age doesn’t bother either one of us. I have to find a way to tell my parents about her so that they’ll trust her…and me for that matter. She is working on her Ph.D in child physcology (if I spelled that right). She is in graduate school right now. I have no doubt in my mind that she is level headed. I mean she has to be to make it through graduate school. I am a senior in high school this year. I am going to be going to college next year in the same city where she lives (about 30 miles from me). We want to just hang out as friends right now and see how it goes. How do I convince my parents that she won’t “con” me into having sex and all that? My parents know I also am level headed. I don’t screw up all the time and get into trouble. A)I know she won’t “con me into having sex and all that and B)she is just not that “kind” of a person..if you get my drift. I have talked to her on the phone a lot as well as online. We are planning to meet at a mall that is in the town where I live on this Sunday. I was planning to tell my parents about her after we meet in person. Do you have any ideas how to make my parents trust her…and me? Thanks in advance!

Answer #1

If I were your father/mother I would be happy with this educated girl being your friend or even more, and also with that if she could initiate you in the sexual practice that is just in time I think, if you are 18 yo now. Of course you and the girl should comply with the gradual step by step approach of the sexuality, as it is normal for educated and well socialized persons. So, in your place I would make my talk with my parents in this sense. On the other hand, I think that is also true, you are thinking about sex with her a little early. For a 18 yo boy that is not so easy/effortless to have sex with a 22 yo well educated girl, who is at a graduate shool, which is full of other stuents and also with young teachers.

Answer #2

Its understandable that your parents may be a lil hesitant in accepting her at first being older than you, 18 & 22 sounds bad now, but if you say 28 & 32 it doesnt sound as bad huh. Id say that if you are a good guy and your parents trust your judgment they should come to accept things in time. Start mentioning that you’ve met this incredable girl and tell them about her achievments so far,make sure you talk about her in a positive manner to them before they meets her so they get a good impression of her. But the bottom line is you are old enough to make your own choices and if you think this could lead to somewhere good then your parents should want to see you happy and accept it.

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