Help!!! I am tensed!!!

Ok, well, you have asked a lot in just a few short questions.

In Europe and the USA (as well as some other areas), masturbation is very common for men and women and by far the majority believe this to be perfectly safe and cause no long term harm.

It is not known to cause physical harm to the body but can cause guilt, worry and stress depending on a persons religious and family beliefs. (I’m not sure what your religion says about masturbation and if/how religious you may be)

An orgasm happens to a female when she massages her vagina and clitoris for a while. An orgasm can be like an explosion of pleasure starting in your vagina and spreading throughout your body to the tips of your fingers.

It can make you breathless and feel like you are floating on air.

Many teens use the word ‘cum’ or ‘cumming’ which is the same as having an orgasm, it is just a different word for it. All these words can be used for male or female.

However, not all females have orgasms. I think the last I read, up to 185 never have an orgasm thir whole life although experts believe that nearly all women are capable of orgasms if they learn to relax and enjoy with their mind as well as their body. Guilt can stop someone having an orgasm.

OK - Here are some suggestions you may find useful.

Remember, you dont HAVE to insert your fingers actually into your vagina to masturbate.

Get yourself in the mood for masturbation.

Relax as much as you can and take a warm bath. Ensure your privacy: turn off the phone, lock the door etc. Find a comfy position. Most women start out lying on their backs, legs bent and spread apart, with feet on the ground. Remove most or all of your clothing.

Fantasize for masturbation.

Recall an exciting past sexual encounter or elaborate on a favorite sexual fantasy. For older girls/women, if you need a boost, look at a sexy magazine, read an erotic story, or watch an adult video. Allow your mind to explore any images–anything goes as long as it heightens your excitement.

Explore all parts of your body.

Run your hands along parts of your body, lingering along areas that are more responsive to touch than others. Look at your genitals in a mirror (especially if you’re unfamiliar with them) and caress the different parts to see what feels especially good. Find and touch your inner and outer labia, your clitoris, your vagina and your perineum.

Touch yourself.

Using one or two fingers, rhythmically stroke the different parts of your vulva, paying particular attention to your clitoris and labia. Experiment with different types of pressure, speed and motion. Try placing a finger on either side of the clitoris and stroking up and down, or placing two fingers on the clitoral hood and rubbing in a circular motion.

Experiment.

Try different types of touch: stroke, tickle, knead, pinch, or lightly pull your genitals. Try using one or several fingers, the palm of your hand, even your knuckles.

Build up excitement.

Learn to hold onto sexual excitement by building up and then reducing or temporarily stopping the stimulation. Pay attention to how your body is responding. It will tell you the particular stroke that feels best and when to pick up or slow down the tempo.

Breathe and rock.

Breathe deeply rather than hold your breath. This helps release the sexual energy, rather than fight it. Rhythmically clench and release your PC muscle.

Getting over the top.

If your hand gets tired, give yourself a rest, switch hands, or try a vibrator if you have one. If you’re on the brink of orgasm, but can’t quite get over the hump, try altering you’re breathing, or focusing on a really hot fantasy. Give yourself extra stimulation: caress your nipples, or try also thrusting your other fingers or a vibrato in and out of your vagina.

Ride the Wave.

As you begin to orgasm, continue the stimulation through the orgasm. Lighten up on the stimulation during the first extremely sensitive moments but keep it going to enjoy those little pleasurable aftershocks. Your first orgasm may feel like a blip or a blast, but the more you practice, the more variety you will experience.

Practice makes for perfect masturbation.

Don’t worry if you don’t come on your first try, keep practicing, or try some of the variations below.

Tips: Vibrators take some of the manual labor out of masturbation by providing direct, intense physical stimulation to the clitoris.

Water helps many women learn to masturbate. Lie back with legs spread in a bath with a shower hose and direct the stream of water at your clitoris. Vary the pressure, the pulsation, and the temperature. Alternate methods: slide your butt over the drain so your legs are up in the air and your genitals are up under the tub faucet (rather awkward but do-able), or use Jacuzzi jets.

Rub against something–a pillow, the corner of some furniture, a dildo.

Dildos can be a pleasurable accompaniment to clitoral masturbation, as they offer the fullness of penetration and can also stimulate the G-Spot.

Its not wrong it is perfectly safe, normal and it feels damn good!

There are two types of people in the world, those who have in the past/still regulary masturbate and liars!

Explore your body and enjoy yourself.

:-)

Kiasu

Just to follow up on my last answer, here are some comments written by women describing what an orgasm feels like:

An orgasm is not just getting wet . If you need to ask if you had one then the chances are that you have not. The feeling is such that you will DEFINATELY know!

“Your body starts to shake and tingle and then when you climax it feels like you’re going to pee but it’s the natural excretion of fluids and it feels oh so good”

“A wave a tingles flowing from the center of your body out to the tips of your hands, your feet, and even lips. Total relaxation and a feeling of weightlessness.”

“When my boyfriend fingers me I feel an intens feeling so strong that I have to actually tell him to stop because I can handle it anymore,I feel it in my thighs, I get shivers on my arms, every muscle in my body tightens my body is tingly and I feel like im high”

“There’s no other feeling like it…it’s a most delicious, exciting, fulfilling physical feeling”

“You can feel it coming,like you start to tingle all over and you just want more and more…this is usually the point where a screamer starts to-you know-moan and stuff. Then the rush of tingles becomes more intense and satisfying-this is usually the point where-if the guy stopped right now you would seriously hurt him-and you cant help starting to scream/moan harder and telling the guy not to stop or to go harder or whatever you like that helps make the orgasm be at its best.”

“Your toes curl,you bend backwards as far as you can,every muscle tightens,at this point you don’t scream your just too tuned in and in that moment,your eyes are closed-nothing else could possibly matter at this stage,you even hold your breath for a while.

Then right after this huge satisfaction and relieve falls over you and you start to catch your breath again…”

“My favorite orgasms are through oral sex. When he starts, I feel incredibly sensitive everywhere. Then the sensation sharpens and isolates around the clitoris. Everything feels hot, then when I climax, I feel my vagina pulsating and there’s a few seconds of exquisite sensation. Sometimes, I’ll have three or four intense spasms, then nothing. Other times they’re followed by smaller waves, spaced less close together.”

“When I use a vibrator, orgasm is like a strong rush of pleasure where everything is centered around the clitoris. Then I feel tension build, and pleasure build with it, until it feels like my clitoris is going to explode. I can feel myself going into spasms and my brain feels like it’s being flooded.”

Finally, when you are about to have your first orgasm it may feel like you are going to urinate and may stop the stimulation. You need to go past this feeling to get to the orgasm.

Once you have had a few and are used to the feeling, you will know the difference between the feeling you want to urinate and an orgasm just about to commence.

Remember, the above are individual descriptions of what an orgasm feels like to each person. Everyone is different and it will feel different for you but this should give you some idea of what to expect.

Imagine the best feeling in the world and then multiply it by 100. smile

Ladies, feel free to add to the above descriptions.

Kiasu