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my heart fell when i saw the way my boyfriend looked at my best friend.

I love my boyfriend SO MUCH. i would DO ANYTHING for him. Hes a good guy and when I introduced him to my best friend i saw a connection between them. I knew shes the one for him ..the way he looked at her, he was so distracted. she didnt have a distracting outfit it was vry simple, a everyday wear. This had happened to me before where my ex fell in love with some other chick, i hate who i become. I become very jealous of my good friend. But i see it in her eyes too, she loves him. I am not being dramatic. my sister says hes with u, he chose u and thats all it matters. YEAH before he met her. I try to not have them in the same place. and wish sometimes shes disappear. i hate myself. But from my past expirence, i can’t let him go. I KNOW if i do, he won have any regerts seeing her. Today we met at a party and when she passed by him its like she blew him away without even trying. Shes not flirtatious and either is he. The way he looks at her or talks to her is slowly torturing me.Please please don’t say let him go. I feel the luckiest girl with him. i changed so much because of him. I used to be a b!tch and no good and i become clean, i just can’t keep hiding my boyfriends from girls. WHAT DO I DO? everytime i have one they end of failing for someone else. I am so desperate not to let this one go.

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Answer #1

Here’s the thing with relationships, they have to be reciprocal else you have one person who’s a liar, and one who’s fooling themselves. Quite frankly, if a guy can so easily just leave you for someone else… well they didn’t love you definitely not on the same level of emotion as you. He’s with you, he chooses you, has hasn’t done anything to get your friend has he? Truthfully, if he did, or if he does in the future, well then you know that his feelings for you weren’t true enough. I, personally, believe that when you love someone on that specially, deep level, you don’t get swayed, especially that easily. Since he hasn’t done anything about it (at least from what you said), perhaps this is all just in your mind, the jealousy is clouding it making things seem worst than it is. It’s very normal in a relationship for either of you to find others attractive, and jealousy is also very normal (we aren’t perfect afterall) but it shouldn’t go overboard and become controlling. Perhaps your jealousy is the culprit here making you feel like he is going to go after you friend, especially since it happened to you in the past! But regardless, if he loves you, truly loves you, he would not and will not be swayed at all regardless of how attractive ANY female is.

Answer #2

This happened to me. I was the guy. Biggest mistake of my life. She broke my heart. Twice. It was beautiful while it lasted.

Answer #3

I understand if you feel jealouse considering the moment that you see. You should talk to your boyfriend about it, so you can clarify whether it is only your imagination or there is a basis for it. For a relationship to work, there should be a mutual trust and respect for each other. It is okay to be attracted to others but not to the point that he will make it obvious infront of you. He should have considered your feelings. As early as now, you have to clarify it or else you may regret it later on.

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