Should I give my kids up?

ok I know most of you are going to say im a sult or shouldnt be having sex. but I’m 16 and I have a 15 month year old daughter named Raven with this guy then when we broke up he set me up with his best friend who got me pregnant with twins. I love my kids but I don’t know if me rasing them is the best for them should I give them up?

Answer #1

says months, learn to read

Answer #2

im 18 now and I had a kid at 16 and she is the best thing ever to happen to me and now im 5months pregnant and I will love both f my kids please dont give up your kids think about all the pain you went thou and when you 1st held your babys in your arms. do you love your kids?

NEVER LEAT your BABYS GO

Answer #3

its not my choice to make but I think you should keep them I know sometimes it can be really hard and you just wanna run away but if you really think about it they will always love you no matter what even if your the only one the have being a good mother isnt by buying your kids all kind of gifts its being there when no one else is around its giving them all the love you got I love kids and if I was to get pregnant I would keep them even if I was alone because I know when they get older they would b glad to have a mom who help and loved them when they dad left so goo luck with watever choice you make

Answer #4

I wouldn’t listen to some people who says “don’t give them up” because they are not the one dealing with this, you are! Old miss caro2rescue is just a bitter old (*) and you don’t have to prove nothing to her. Anyways I grew up in a very poor household, my mom was a single mom with 4 kids and had a job that paid a little over minimum wage (no college degree) We barely survived. We were the laughing jokes of our schools because we didn’t have clean nor new clothes. I am 30 years old getting therapy from the horrors of growing up in the “ghetto” and the torment of the students in the “poor public schools” that we went to with. If you feel adoption is the best, find a good set of parents and go for it or maybe find a relative to take them until you finish a trade in a technical school or college. Good luck with your decision!

Answer #5

for one if you mean abortion NO!!! giving them up for adoption is differnt IF you decide to give them up PLEASE find a nice couple who will adopt them they can pay all the expenses and you could have an open adoption that way you can still see your children grow up but please dont ever consider abortion its not their fault mommy doesnt believe in condoms why should they have to die because you cant care for them

and I strongly recomend SOME SORT OF BIRTH CONTROL really I hate condoms too but I deal with it

Answer #6

uh I did wear a condom the first time it broke and the second time the guy told me he had the condom on but that was a lie

Answer #7

NOOO! DONT GIVE UP YOUR KIDS

Answer #8

im only 14 but I know your probably like forget that its just a 14 year old but I think that you shouldnt because what if they were to come to you in the future iand they hated you for what you have done would you want to not know who your birth mother was so I just think you shouldnt because you would leave them wondering…just ask your fmily for help thats what they are here for…my cousin brittany has the whole family to help her with her baby and she is your age just think about it :)

Answer #9

If you have any question in your head that you should give them up then maybe you should. You are very very brave to be a parent at that age and you have 3 babies. Your still a kid maybe you should give them up so they will have a better life than you can give them right now. For the best of the child/children

Answer #10

OK, what do I know about having children? I am 13. But honestly I would go to your local Prodestant church, and ask someone to help you. my cousin, did it and she now found a loving family toward the children please take this into consideration

Answer #11

I understand what your going through, Im 24 and when I was 16 I had my 1st son, when I was 22 I ended up pregnant again with a set of twins and I questioned weather or not I could do this , my twins are now 2 and im thankful that I have them and wouldnt change a thing, however at the age you are and you have so much responsibilty as it is , being a young mother is hard and it will take a lot out of you, but it will also take away from the child you already have, at 16 im sure your struggling financially already, twins are not cheap and deep down im sure you know how you feel and it would be a hard thing to do but maybe adoption is right for you, give yourself a second chance at being a teenager, be more responsible towards your actions, have an open adoption so your still involved and when your older you’ll be able to help them out when they need things. look at it as your not doing this just for you but for them and there future because you love yourself and them.

Answer #12

if you dont have help from the dads or your family, you really need to consider adoption. if your family is willing to help, and maybe a family member would be willing to adopt your kids…that is what I would do. I couldnt imagine life without my son.

Answer #13

no one can make this decision for you its best that you sit down and really think about it your the one thats have to deal with the outcome not us..think about

Answer #14

Hey hun, Maybe it is best if you give the little bundle of joy’s to some parents how have been trying to have babies for a while and make them happy. At 16 years old with a 15month old and twins its going to be sooo hard for you. By the sounds of it you are a great mummy but twins is a big task. I hope you make a good choice. Take care x

Answer #15

well I think that you should keep them but if you feel that you truely cant give them to someone you know will take care of them like a family member or a friend. best of luck to you.

hope this helped!!!

Answer #16

Well it’s you’re choise you do what’s right if you think you can handle it go for it but if not then don’t.

Answer #17

Please be a good mommy :) The goverment will help you ,you can go to school and get a good job ,meet a nice man and live a happy life! you got one chance at the game of life shoot for the stars kiddo you can do this:)

Answer #18

If you’re questioning whether you should give your kids up or not, than you’re in a huge predicament. Obviously something inside of you is saying these kids aren’t getting the best, as they should be. If they aren’t being provided for 100% than this is probably good choice to make, always remember they cant make their own decisions so it’s up to you to make the best one for them, this is going to effect the rest of their life. You need to think more about it and talk to a professional, maybe there is a family member that could raise them till you’re older and more mature to take on parenthood.

Answer #19

16 is a tough age to be raising kids. I would say you’re really brave to be raising 3 kids at this age. especially if neither of the idiots who knocked you up are helping. raising babies is a heavy burden especially if you’re doing it alone.

but there are always open adoptions where you get to know how your child is doing. I hope you are not planning to give them to DSS though. I think it would be a lot harder for them if that’s the case. meanwhile you could still try raising all of them… if you have a job it will help. if not you should get one. find someone 2 babysit for you if no one is. and good luck. with whatever decision you make. I’m sure you’r kids are beautiful.

Answer #20

Well you shouldn’t be having sex and you had one child, so it’s not like you didn’t know where kids come from. It is YOUR responsibility to be the children’s mother and provide for them the best way you can. After all, you’re the one who had unprotected sex to get all 3 children. If giving the children up and having them placed in foster care until HOPEFULLY someone will adopt them feels right for you, then maybe you should give them up. You shouldnt be giving the children up just because you want to have a life or just because you are mad at their father. The father should have a say in whether or not you give the children up for adoption.

Answer #21

how can you be 16 and have a 15 yr old daughter. that would mean that you had her when you was 1

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