Have I failed as a parent

look your girl has her life your not a bad mum mabey you shude stop her seeing this boy to do that in front of her dad its wrong

thank you all for all your answers and I already plan on being there for her whether she is pregnant or not.I love my kids with all my heart and would never hurt them for any reason.it is hard to build someones self confidence when you have a low self confidence yourself, but I will do my very best.again thank you all so much for your advice.

this isnt the worst thing that could happen, I feel sorry for my mom, my bro made a bomb threat to his school at 12, got arrested almost, and I tried to kill myself, sex isnt a big deal.

ok well im 16 just turned 16 actually. and just letting you know most teenage girls will do the opposite of what thei mom tells them they can or cant do. but im not telling you to tell her she can do something and you dont want her to. thats not a good thing. just sit with her and talk about it as a family. maybe just you and her. or maybe her dad could join in the conversation. you have NOT done anything wrong. like I said most teenage girls do that. you have not done anything to deserve the disrespect by the sounds of it your a GREAT mother. aot of kids arent that fortunate to have a mom that actually cares. but dont let her see your fear. thats not a good thing either. good luck. stay strong :]

maybe because you may have trusted her, which it seems that way, she just thought she could do whatever and you would forgive her. heck I think you sound like an understanding parent. I think 11-18 year olds are all acting out. you did nothing wrong at all. sometimes I guess teens will be teens. I hope it all gets figured out. good luck!

For her to do what she did was her doing and had nothing to do with your parenting ability. Kids get to the age where they make mistakes no matter what you do as a parent. It would be good to face this problem with her and calmly explain to her what could result from her actions. If she isn’t preganant, get her on birth control. You already know she is going to do this with or without your approval. I’m not saying to condone this action, but better to be safe that an early grandparent.

first off dont feel ashamed, or like this is your fault because it isnt parents usually do the best they can to raise there child, and the best they can at teaching them important life lessons and teach them about things like sex. they are also there for there children, offering support and advice for anything they might be going through unfortunatly when children grow up a little and start developing there own identities, morals, opinions and relationships they start taking risks, and doing things that you dont always wish they were doing what she did is her doing, not yours youve raised her the best you can but despite the fact that youve told her to wait until shes on boirth control shes went ahead and had sex, even worse in the car while your husband was driving and this was her mistake almost all children and teens make mistakes some will be small, some will be bigger things like stealing, getting pregnant, being on drugs, ect once its done though its done, and all you can do is be there for her and offer your support she made the mistake, not you but with your help shell most likley be able to get through it so just do what mothers do best and be there for your daughter, offering your advice and support

Lets take the practical route. She’s a teenager with raging hormones, and she lacks self control. So instead of downing her or making her feel guilty about the situation, talk to her about self respect and boost her self confidence. Men respect women that are in control of themselves and their bodies. There is a reason that girls shouldn’t start having sex with their boyfriends. Let her know that men don’t really respect women that give it up, explain to her about how men can be really dirty, and how once you give it away, you can’t take it back. she needs to figure out who she is going to be, is she going to be the chick that gives it up, or does she want to have class?

When I was seventeen I went through a time when I actually ran away to be with my boyfriend because ‘I loved him’ and we were having sex. guess what he ended up being abusive and now he is a worthless baby-daddy that I have to deal with all of the time. He nearly ruined my life. In the beginning I just knew he was the one and that we were so perfect, but feelings fade, and sex complicates things.

As for being pregnant, she is probably stressed out so don’t be surprised if she is late. Take a deep breath and pray for the best. God wouldn’t give her anything that she could not handle.

if shes going to do that with your husband in the car and not care that what do you think she is doing behind your back the possibilities seem endless with a child doing such a lude thing if I ever caught my daughter doing that that would be it she would have no more boyfriend I would have already gone to his parents I would go have her tested for STD’s all that you could put her in private school tighten the reigns women because the rope seems too lose right now she has no respect for you or her self and you need to change that today this whole thing it just embarassing I mean I feel it for you