What do I do about a guy and his mother who won't leave me alone?

There’s this guy I met and knew in highschool, Jake. We were friends before my boyfriend and I got together in gr11. Back then I knew Jake had a pretty big crush on me, but he nor I ever did anything. Eventually it started getting really annoying, mostly because of his mother. She loved me for some reason, wanted me with her son very badly. She would call me, invite me out to movies with her son, dinners, etc. This continued on AFTER I was with my boyfriend. I had been very blunt with the woman that I do not see Jake in a romantic way and never will, but somehow she seems to always thing “maybe in the future?”. AND I have been blunt with the guy, told him I HATE how she keeps calling me, that I find it odd that my friend’s parent would be calling me so much and so forth. Even now, I’ve been with my boyfriend (the same boyfriend) for four years, I still get messages from her and sometimes from him. He’s a good friend, a great guy, most respectful, but this just won’t stop. I had, in the past, severed connections with him, stopped talking to him (you have no idea how incredibly annoying and frustrating this was getting) but it had never deterred him or his mother. Jake is recently transferring to my University for both our third year and same program, I had originally thought we could be friends again and that this nonsense would have stopped and be over with since they both have seen that me and my boyfriend are very serious, but no, it’s starting all over again.

Answer #1

Sounds like you have tried everything. Does your boyfriend know about this? It may be time for him to step in and put a stop to this for you. He could have some words with this guy.

Answer #2

I agree with onemandog, also you could try saying you will press charges on them both, if that doesn’t work then actually start the procedure so they know you mean buissiness. Have you tried talkin with the Dean about this issue? That could also help

Answer #3

< In university… well to be honest I have no idea who our dean is lol, but I doubt they’d do anything. But thank you. I guess worst comes to worst I wiill have to do that.

Answer #4

He does, and he knows the guy as well, just not to the extent of their uh… advances. I’m just always scared he will do something too drastic because I know how he can get.

Answer #5

Ahhh I see. I thought they could possible talk with him, maybe you could even start the process through them by filing a complaint of harrassment or something. Good luck I hope he and his mother stop soon

Answer #6

“Cursed with beauty and personality. .” The best thing to do is face the problem head on. By going to the source of the problem “The mother.” Set the record straight and let her know that it’s never going to happen between you and her son. She seems to be the one pushing the issue. Sometimes, ki//ing them with kindness, is not enough. It’s time to bust her bubble! And you’r going to have to speak up J’ if you want to be heard.

Answer #7

Wow that’s annoying! Talk one on one with jake face to face and say that he is a great guy, but you are NOT interested in him in that way. Tell him that his advances are annoying and it makes you detest him! >_<

Answer #8

That’s understandable, but this thing is really disrupting your life. Ask your boyfriend to please be mature about this and tell this guy to stop while explaining that you two are committed. If the other guy doesn’t take the hint, then I’d say he’ll have to go to the next step because when you are doing nothing wrong, it’s his responsibility to protect you.

Answer #9

This is harassment … call in a police report.

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