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Is it a good idea to talk to your boyfriend about the future?

I’ve had this on my mind for a long time now!! & now that my sister has gotten preg due in november (shes an adult don’t worry lol) It has really made me think Is it a good idea to talk to your boyfriend about the future like… If I got preg what will we do, what are his plans for the future, etc. Etc. Before having sex instead of waiting until the last minute you are preg trying to decided what to do etc. Before the baby comes? Or do you think it’s a bad idea & too much?

Have you done this with every boyfriend? I’ve never talked to my previous boyfriends about it when I was with them but always wanted to I felt if I did it would likely freak them out & make them think I want a baby or something which I don’t lol! I don’t want to have kids or until I’m almost too old to have them xdd

I would like to know both girls also guys opinion on this Thanks!

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Answer #1

I would say it is an excellent idea- my boyfriend and I have always talked openly about anything like this and it feels reassuring to know the other person’s stance. It helps you confirm you are both going in the right direction and can help you notice any discrepancies in your future plans. He, for example, may never want children, but you want a large family. It is important to know these things as then you can work out if you may be willing to compromise what you want long term for this person and maybe not achieve it. If you aren’t then you need to find someone who wants similar.

I think you should just bring up that your sister is pregnant and it has made you think about kids. Say you are not sure if you want them, and definitely not for a few years, and ask if he has ever thought about having any too. You can easily street the conversation in the direction ‘what happens if I get pregnant?’ once you know how each other feel on the matter, as neither of you will feel that the other is desperate to have a baby and get freaked out about it.

Communicating like this is part of a good, healthy, adult relationship so good ahead =) it shows maturity to want to say these things, but if he does respond badly he is probably just not as grown up as you yet. Remember, if he is not ready to discuss the outcome and consequences, he is not really ready to have sex. Good luck.

Answer #2

I would say to be on the safe side chat to him about it. At least then if you do become pregnant you wont be worried about telling him and scared he is isnt going to stick by you. Be straight with him and say you dont want a child but if it happens what our we going to do?? im sure he will understand and you will then be able to put your mind at rest :). <– hope this helps ;)

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