Getting married...early?

NO NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU!!! I think its awesome you want to be able to LIVE LIFE now and when you grad. and you dont feel obligated that you have to have someone to make your life complete… You seem very strong and confident and those are very admirable traits!

Marriage is a huge thing, so is having children. I find it hard to pin point an age, it really depends on the relationship. I don’t think it’s ever too old to settle down, and yeah there is an age where it’s too young. I cant really judge this because I am turning 20 in August and I have my first child along the way. I know I’ve made mistakes and I’ve accepted that and I actually have grown to be excited about bringing a baby into this world; I have a job, I go to school, I’m mature, etc. and I’m doing everything I can for myself so my baby can grow up and be able to look up at me and feel lucky. I never thought I would have a baby young, but things do happen and when push comes to shove at this point in my life I’d much rather take care of this than take any other road. I have family, friends, that babies father around me who have helped me tremendously.

I know you aren’t judging people, it’s just an opinion but there are of course people who do take care of their baby and still continue on succeeding in their own life. My baby’s father has talked about marriage, he wanted to get married this summer but I said no, I already have a baby on the way I’m in no position for any more responsibilities.

I find a lot of people underestimate marriage, it really takes a lot of; love, commitment, etc. to make a marriage work. Marriage isn’t just a relationship with a label, it really is a full time job. Marriage is a whole new step in life I think people don’t realize it and take that step too early. I cant see myself getting married anytime before 25.

thanks for the answer steph.

I think I also just want to clear this up…maybe if someone is going to take it the wrong way. I am not judging people who are having children in their 20’s or earlier for that matter…it just feels like I am literally worlds apart from my age group/ friends group at the moment.

I mean I’ll be 25 when I’ve finished my degree and then I would like to start a career and see the world…so I just sometimes wonder if there isn’t something wrong with me for seeing things so differently.

I know a lot of 30 pluses and they arent married yet but one thing I’ve noticed that they seem more anxious to do so… Some of them feel like they arent ever going to find someone and others feel like they wont b able to have kids (those that are already like 38) and some it seems arent really living life cause they think life is going to start after they get married… But Im in premed and I always said I would get married in my early 30’s cause I didnt want to be in school and interning and stuff with a family and/or a kid or two. But if I meet they guy I dont want to live without when im say 23ish Im not gunna wait 7 years to marry him

The best age to get married would be around age 23-25 and to have kids around 26. That way in the early years of your 20’s you can still have freedom from having children. That’s their choice to start up a family pretty early,just enjoy life before you think about marriage and having kids.