Get over him

Get rid of things that remind you of him, like things he bought for you and stuff like that. Also remember he’s you ‘ex’ for a reason.

I’m going through the same thing . this may be a bit hateful but I snogged my ex’s best friend and it actually helped and its good to talk to your ex like be friends with him . if you act normal with him and be friendly to him . then you will soon see you’s wer just better as friends . you will see it will help :)

Well first make sure you have closure before you engage in the next relationship or else the next relationship is not going to work. But honestly, the best way to get over an ex, is to hop to the next.. good luck.. xx. superfresh.

Moving on is not necessarily forgetting… I wouldn’t discard the things a person had given me (personally). If you start to miss those items, that could lead to further issues in some cases and it could be associated with ‘hiding’ from your problems. Part of moving on is tying up the loose ends and addressing your feelings. There are several questions you can ask yourself that can assist you in addressing the issues you are having (which are preventing you from moving on) appropriately…

“How do you feel (and about your ex-boyfriend)?” “Why do you feel this way?” “What things make it hard to move on?”

If you can answer those questions, then you can really start to think about how you are going to move on. It is always important to consider your feelings first and not your actual goal (your goal should only be made when you know what is happening). Identify the things around you or inside you that make it difficult to move on. Think about how you feel and what you are thinking about, as well as how you feel about your ex-boyfriend. Then ask yourself why you feel/ think that way about each subject.

After answering these questions (for yourself), you can then start really considering your options. Typically the options will be quite basic. I do now know of your specific needs or how exactly you would answer those questions above, so I am going to speak generally about what you can do to move on.

The first thing to do after getting an understanding of the issues at hand is to find people to reach out to. Talk to your closest friends about the troubles you have had and tell them that you really need some support. Good friends will make the time to support you and will be more than willing to talk to you and let you unwind a bit (get some of the stress out of your system). Talking about your problems and having someone (or several people) that you trust to listen to you are extremely important. If you can talk about things on a somewhat regular basis and not hold back too much, this will have a positive impact on you. Holding back/ suppression do not eliminate the issues around you, all they do is allow them to remain around for longer.

After finding people to talk to, it is then time to start getting your life back on track. Think about the things that you used to do (and enjoy) before your relationship and start getting back into your old routine. Do not think about those things being ‘better with a boyfriend’, because that will only set you back. Just allow yourself to do the things that you enjoyed before and things that you know will still be enjoyable. Do not hide from (or ignore) your troubles, but still try to have fun and be happy. If you’re sad and you’re holding back, then that will make it a lot harder to deal with your troubles than it would be with a fresh mind :).

Aside from that, you may wish to consult your parents (some people aren’t too thrilled about this idea, but it can help). They are always around and if they care about you, they will be there to support you if/ when your friends are not able to. If you have any siblings, they too can be very helpful.

Ultimately, the suggestions I’ve made are quite general and only apply in the ‘majority’ of cases. Your needs may not pair up with the suggestions that I have made. Like I said, identify your issues and what your needs are and then use this knowledge to set yourself some short-term goals which will eventually lead to you having moved on successfully (your long-term goal maybe). If you need any further advice, feel free to ask here, but just make sure you consider the answers given here :).