Am I so frozen woman?? Am I heartless woman?? Am I solitary??

I thought you were describing me there for a minute!!! I think is great to be how you are. I have no friends either and also chose music!!!!! My only friends are online or people I have met online that gave me their information and now I text or IM with.

That’s why I have asked for help or advice on anything on this website since I have my own way of figuring things out.

I rely on myself and don’t like it when I have to ask for help.

Where I am different and wish I was more like you is in other people’s opinions of me. It bothers me if somebody is mad at me and I am a really good listener and like to help people and feel good to take their input when I am making decisions. I like to be there to assist others.

**That’s why I have NEVER asked for help or advice on anything on this website since I have my own way of figuring things out.

How come you do sound in need of help and assistance based on your other questions on here?

This is a serious case of Narcissism… Your not able to form any meaningful relationships with people when your only thinking of yourself… That isn’t fair to your family and especially not to your husband… Seek help. your NOT a special snowflake honey grow up.

Something I figured out long ago was that I’m not a people person. I do better working with and dealing with things than people. You seem to be carrying a lot of guilt over what I think is your inate personality type. As long as you aren’t hurting other people I don’t see anything wrong with being a loner. For a long time I just didn’t get how other people were e.g. when I went to music camp as a kid I laughed when I saw teens crying because they were leaving their parents for a while then 2 weeks later the same kids were crying because they were leaving their new friends. I thought it was pathetic because I just didn’t get that other people valued relationships a great deal more than I did. Yes sometimes loners like us have to force ourselves to be more social to get by but we really don’t need to feel guilty.

u sound awesome! ur just your own person. if u dont like others opinions, or friends O well. its not a big problem. But u should still share your life with others, maybe give others advice when they need it, share your strength. But seriously if this is just who u r dont worry about it.

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