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Friend is too critical

I got this friend who is way to critical of me. She’s always telling me how to do my hair and makeup, how to dress, what shoes to wear and even what kind of earrings to wear…what the fck!! And no, it’s not just suggestions, she’s making it out like I look aweful and I look just fine. She like analyzes me and tells me whats wrong. The thing is, she looks no better herself ( boy-short fuzzy hair, skinny as a rake, dresses like a 30 year old) and nobody even likes her!!! I don’t like how she dresses, but I have enough respect to know that how you dress is your choice, so I don’t critisize her. I was wearing fairly large silver hoops and she said I looked like a hooker what the fck!!! Why is she being such an ass an what should I do??!! Thanxx

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Answer #1

Her problem is she has no self esteem herself so she is picking on you to make herself feel better. She knows very well that you look fine and you dress fine and you have nothing to worry about in the looks department but the way you described her, it sounds like she is jealous of your looks and has low self esteem, people that have low confidence and dont see themselves as beautiful become envious of those who are beautiful, so she is picking at everything you do or wear to make you paranoid about yourself so she doesnt feel so alone. Its a tough situation becos you cant just come out and say ‘hey just cos you have low self esteem doesnt mean you can pick on me’ cos she could say ‘your wrong’ in this situation id tell her to stop picking on every lil thing you wear becos even tho you value her opinion WHEN YOU ASK FOR IT, you dont wanna wear everything she says becos its not your style so get over it. If she doesnt accept your honesty as a friend then she isnt a very good friend.

Answer #2

Ok if nothing else is working for you then you need to put her in her place. You can listen to wat eva music you want to!!!!!!!!! maybe i was wrong cos this chick just sounds like a control freak if shes trying to tell you wat music to listen to! tell her to back off and chill out, you can listen to wat eva you want!

Answer #3

Now she’s tryna tell me what music to listen to. She has no respect for other ppls opinion and it makes me SICK!!! I’m really tempted to tell her off, but I dunno if I should, whadda you think?

Answer #4

ok, she said i was dumb the other day, and um smart as hell. r u sure it’s her self esteem, or is she just a real bitch. Should I stop hangin with her?

Answer #5

the best way i think would be to say somthing about her you dont like, i know you said you dont want to tell her how to dress or what to wear but i think if you do it back she will see how it makes you feel, and will see its not nice to be told how to dress.. a bit harsh but think it will work. goodluck hun

Answer #6

Thaxx

Answer #7

Thanxx

Answer #8

Why did she say you were dumb for? she is putting you down becos she feels crap about herself and is trying to make you feel the same way about yourself, dont let her get into your head. When she calls you dumb dont let her get away with it, get defensive and ask why she is calling you dumb and why is she so mean for. If you cant take her anymore then you can not be friends with her hun, if its going to make you feel better.

Answer #9

Tell her to back off!!! Point out to her that you don’t criticize her. Tell her that “You are what you wear”!!!

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