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Is this forever or for never?

Ok, I’m a 13 year old girl and going into high school. I’ve only really had 2 real boyfriends but now I’m going out with a guy I really like!!! We have been going out for about 2 months, but we are so open about everything, I talk to him about girl stuff and he talks to me about all his crazy thingsi feel like I’ve nown him for my whole life!!! Also, he tells me when he does stuff with girls and I don’t get jealous or yell at him cause I don’t want to lose him. People think we are nuts!!! But anyway, we both are really experiencing things for the first time and we understand what eachother are feeling, liek how I’m more behind closed doors, and hes out in the open!! Its really cool! But there are a few problems. One. we have a vision of getting married and we have practicaly planed our life together, we both think its really fast, but we really want to stay together, I don’t know if its just 1st love or for real!!! Also he is going to another high school next year and I won’t see him at all!!! I made the varisty cheer team and I’m afriad ill have more opportunities with more guys.The last thing is we are on two different parts of the school “food chain” like, I’m a cheerleader, and have all the “popular” friends, and he isn’t on my level hes a trouble maker, I get all the crap from my friends about how I could do better, but I really don’t want to. We want a place away from where hes himself, and we don’t have to deal with parent or friends talking crap!!! One final question!!! I really want to wait till marraige to have sex, and he knows that, but the way I talk to him makes it seem like I would drop my pants anywhere. I think its me trying to make him happy, but I wouldn’t sacrafice my morals, I more of an all talk no action kinda girl. Am I setting my slef up, or is it really for Real!!!?!?!?!?!??!?! please helppp

-JamiiiBabiii93

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Answer #1

True love at 13, that isnt very likely. But you never know. My two friends met freshmen year and its the end of sophmore year now and they’re still happily together. As for your friends, who cares?? you can’t help how you feel about a person. and they shouldn’t judge you if they’re really your friends. they should accept your decisions, unless, it’s like really bad. And the sex part. Guys like sex a lot. If you lead them on, they dont like that a bunch, and it could deff lead you into some problems. that probably didnt help you, but good luck and i hope things work out somehow =\

Answer #2

You are living in a fairytale world! Not to burst your bubble, but nothing good lasts forever. Especially young love. They dont see how things really are, just what they want them to be.

You say your bf tells you when he does stuff with other girls, and you dont get jealous or yell at him because you dont wanna lose him? WAKE UP! He is cheating on you. There is EVERYTHING wrong with that. Sorry hun, but he doesnt sound like a “great guy” to me!! This is definitely puppy love!!

Answer #3

It’s exciting to make plans with someone and envision your future. But the key is to remember that you are doing this with each other because of the thrill you get fantasizing about adulthood and adult freedoms.

You are both not ready for this at this time. It sounds like you are better friends than anything. So follow your heart, don’t make plans. Sure, talk about your dreams for your future keeping in mind that it doesn’t neccessarily mean that your futures will of have to be together.

Enjoy your youth. It is so temporary and fleeting. There is so much to see and do in this world that at age 13, it’s rather illogical to map your life out with someone and place all your bets it will work out the way you planned. What’s that saying? If you want to make God laugh, make plans? Good advice ;).

Answer #4

wow. I sounded like an idiot! haha. thanks for all your advice. we are still together and we survied year one of highschool! wooohooo! haha

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