Is it normal to miss being pregnant after your baby is born?

Don’t get me wrong, I would never consider having another child right now. My son is almost 4 months old, and I dont think it’s fair to have another child this soon. He needs his own time and attention from us. Although, lately having another baby is all I seem to think about. We had a scare a couple of weeks ago, but I’m not pregnant. I’m glad I’m not, but at the same time, I was kind of disapointed when I found out I wasn’t. I dont miss the pains of being pregnant, I dont miss the bloating, I dont miss the swollen body parts, I dont miss the hemmroids, I dont miss the doctor visits, I dont miss the weight gain and the stretchmarks, I dont miss the actual labor. I do miss, watching my belly grow, seeing my child on the monitor for the first time, finding out he was a boy, feeling him kick, feeling him hiccup, knowing he was safe inside of my stomach.

Am I crazy? Did any of you feel this way after having a baby?

Answer #1

I felt like that…until my oldest son was 5 months old and I found out my second child was on the way. I cried, I was so upset thinking that my son was going to miss out on having us all to himself. Eventually I got over it and became happy about it. Now, looking back I’m glad I had them so close together (they are 13 months apart). My oldest doesn’t remember what life was like when it was just him so he never had the jealousy of an older sibling. My daughter was born 3 years and 19 days after my oldest and 2 weeks short of 2 years from my middle son (all there birthdays are 2 weeks apart). Things were really hard when she was born but again I never had any jealousy from my boys because they were always used to having a sibling around. My mother had my 2 brothers and I the same way and she also feels that with them being closer in age it’s easier to raise them.

I do think that it’s perfectly normal for you to feel this way (hormones and all). Try to remember though if you do have another one soon you won’t be depriving your son of anything…you’ll be giving him a playmate for life.

Answer #2

my son is also 4months old, and I have been having the same thoughts. I miss pregnancy lol.

Answer #3

Thanks for that! I guess I’m just still all baby crazy. I just miss it all so much. My son is growing so fast, and he’s such a little man and trying to be independant already, and he’s only 4 months!

I plan on waiting atleast a little bit longer though, but if it happens, I wouldn’t be upset.

Answer #4

I did, and still do have the same feelings. My daughter is almost 11 months old now, and ever since I had her I wanted to get pregnant again for the same reasons as you. It’s like your body gets used to it, since you are pregnant for so long, then your just not anymore, and its a little sad. I had the same thing happen, we thought I was pregnant and I acted all scared, but when I took a test and it was negative, I was secretly really sad, I think my husband was also.

Answer #5

umm..im defenitly not a mom but it sounds reasonable that you feel that way because all that sounds wonderful..like the good parts that is.. bc it sounds something joyful to experience.. so no, your not crazy..but if you were to miss the bad parts..such as the pains and the labor..lol..then YES you would be crazy!

:] muc luv, belle

oh by the way I dont mean to offend you or anyone wit anything I said

Answer #6

hey I felt exactly the same when I had my little girl shses 18 month now, but when she was born I missed the fact that it wasnt just me that had her and that I had to share her with the world, I think its something all mums go through so no your not crazy, but enjoy every minute because it goes so fast. and just remember when he wakes you up at 4 in the morning to enjoy that time you have while hes so small as he will be very big very soon and be into everything adn then you’ll have no time to think about remembering what it was like being pregnant xx

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