He lied to me, he had sex with his ex girlfriend

Dear soniasum, Before despairing and doing something irrational, you must find out what is the truth from your boyfriend. Is he with you to marry you or is he just using you? I think that now you must be strong and confront this situation in order to take better decisions. If you still want to marry him and him you, then you should go through with the marriage as soon as possible (even if it is just for show). If this is not possible, then you must put and end to this relationship and find another way. There are many roads to choose but first you must have faith. You are not the first woman to be in this situation. Many women live this everyday and come out of this stronger and better people. You must not despair and say all is lost. This is not true. Your only mistake has been to love someone and wish to be their wife. He is the one at fault for not honoring you and your family. Be strong now for your family that loves you and for the future that awaits you. You still have the possibility to live a full life and marry someone who will be a good husband to you. You still have the chance to be honorable towards yourself , your parents and God. Turn away from the darkness and sadness that clouds your vision and look now to the future, to the possibilities that are offered to you, find the path that will heal your heart.

try and think outside the boundaries of your religion people make mistakes okay its not your fault this guy has feelings for someone else you couldnt of known you need to get over this guy and start feeling better about yourself if you dont tell anyone about it, they wont find out and im pretty sure he wouldnt tell anyone about it, if your not sure, ask him about it its not likely that this guy will come back to you, but thats ok you dont always get the first person you fall in love or have sex with sometimes you might not even get the 10nth. you will find a guy who is right for you and loves you just the way you are you just need to be patient think of it this way any guy that doesnt want to be with you, isnt worth your time you shouldnt want to be with someone that doesnt want to be with you as much as it might be looked down upon in your religion, dont think of it that way think of it as you made a mistake, but life goes on, people make mistakes. and thats okay

I know you love him but if you get back with him what if he cheated on you again hes not worth it you can do better than that

Look, he lied, that doesnt make you stupid. You trusted him, and it is not your fault he lied about his ex. Ok, so you had sex, yes I realize that it is taboo, but it really is not the end of the world. People make mistakes. He used you, you have every right to be angry, but don’t feel guilty. Even if you dont marry him, you are not spoilt because you had sex with some guy. You will eventually get married to someone else. Give it some time, you will get over him. But in the meanwhile, remind yourself that you are a good person, having sex does not make anyone a bad person, and you will be fine without him.

god forgives you