Why do I feel bad about filing for child support?

Maybe. I mean i pay 440$ in daycare a month. I have to argue with him to pay one week if that… 110$. And he is constantly rude and disrespectful. But i feel bad. I been procrastinating it..but i gotta do it. One day he might try to take her from me out of spite. Cuz he is like that. I would never do that. And he can still see her more than the every other weekend they will order. I just need custody. He needs to help. Been 2 years of him “trying”

I’m not sure y but don’t feel bad for wanting wats right for ur child

Yea i know. I dunno i guess imma sucker lol

Ur not a sucker, don’t let him get to u, ignore him unless he has something to say in referance to the child/children. U need financial help and thrs nothing wrong with gettin it, after all u didn’t do it alone right

I no its the right thing to do…i just gotta stop bein so nice lol…thanks imlonley

Its cool to b nice but thrs also a time to stand up for wats right. And ur most welcome :-) hope u get things figured out

I’m not sure what his financial standings are, but you’re more then likely feeling bad because a part of you still cares about how paying this money will affect him if he’s already having issues doing so.

It’s not unusual for you to care, but when you do feel bad, it’s always good to keep the main thing in mind. This money isn’t being given to you on an unnecessary basis – it’s being given to you in order to help take care of the child you both have together. Being apart from you relationship wise does not dismiss him of his parental duties. As long as she’s in your care, he needs to help out.

As long as you actually spend every single cent of the money on your child and non of it on yourself, then its doing the right thing. but if you go and buy yourself a new purse every week… then its not the right thing lol. But you sound like it’ll b all for the kid so good job.

You probably feel bad because child support shouldn’t be something that you HAVE to do. The non-custodial parent should automatically help you provide for your child. Unfortunately that’s not what happens in a lot of situations. However, your child is entitled to be taken care of & provided for financially & emotionally by both parents so its your responsibility to make sure that happens. Once you file I’m sure it will be less stressful financially. Even if he tries to give you a hard time for it you should do what’s best for your child

Thanks…. i sent the papers in. All hell will break lose after he finds out but it is for the better

Angel, there are so many reasons why someone might feel badly about doing that. We can’t know what it means to you. So let me turn the question around, back to you: Why do you feel bad about filing for child support?

I guess xcuz i never wanted it to have to be that way…he has been “trying” for 3 years.

Child support is not about you or him nor is it just you getting free money. It’s about him recognizing his child needs and being responsible in her well being. Unfortunately if he’s not able to live up to that commitment on his own in working with you it’s up to the courts to decide what is in your child’s better interest based on his income and ability to share in those expenses. I’m not sure where you live…but as a rule it is very difficult to take custody away from a mother without hard proof (not accusations) they are unfit and an endangerment to the child. And if he can’t afford his child support it doesn’t sound like he has a leg to stand on in assuming he can just take over custody.

3 years!!!! Damn! That’s a lot of trying. But not enough of “trying harder..”

yea your right, He is a f*ck up. always has been. Everything was good we had a house. two cars. nice stuff and he had to go all mental and cheat on me. ruined everything. every since then he has been gettin worse and worse. he called me cryin last night saying he was sorry for verything he did to me. and he feels karma keeps messing with him. I am to nice sometimes

And that my friend, simply put is “karma & consequences” walking hand in hand.

yip.. and he knows it. But he wont change. he has so much hate built up in his heart. he says that he was approached by a demon 3 times…. to take his soul but he said no. I dunno…. he is …… i dunno

Well just let him know that you will be praying for him.

I will and i have. I pray for others more than me. but my life is goin pretty smooth right now. Dont worry be happy. someone went and took your bed aint got no place to lay your head. dont worry be happy. words of a wise man haha

Thanks for explaining a little more, Angel.
Don’t worry, be happy, and file for child support. {;^)

Thank u :)