Family relations, help

yeah I tink the above advice is good,you should def talk to her about it now,even if you dont realy want to because if not you mite wish you had later.I tink you should try to b as kind to her as you can,but dont try to force yourself to feal something you cant.its hard to love someone whos treated you so badly.but you can SHOW her love without actualy FEALING it,and if you do that then you wont rejret anything afterward.do whatever wil give you peace of mind afterward.like even tell her you love her even if you dont mean it.thats not wrong.sometimes you get to the stage where you just have to stop loving someone or youd just go insane because of the way they treat you.I know its hard to understand,just dont blame urself for how you feal ..its only natural to try to protect urself from getting hurt agen and thats what your doing by distanceing urself emotianaly. it must b realy realy hard and im so sorry take care xxx

me agen lol!I can understand why you feal lost.we are surrounded by images of ideal’perfect familys’but in reality not many people have one.then some of us are unfortunate enough to come from disfunctional familys..or in my case disfunctional and abusive and later an abusive relationship.and now?I tink the key to it all is exeptance.exeptance of what cannot be changed-because only then can you move on.also forgiveness.because if you cant forgive it means she stil has a hold over you,she can stil hurt you. and you cant afford to go back 2that.I dont know what else.im stil trying2 figure it out myself.please funmail me if you want to talk im happy 2help if I can.take care xxx

these are good answers and I guess I already knew I had to talk to her and tell her but I was trying to avoid it so she wont suck me in again feeling pity for her when its her own doing that got her to where she is but after I dont think I could put any more effort into a relationship with her, I mean ya its my mother the one person in the world who is supposed to be there no matter what yet as much as I see this in hollywood movies and television and through friends and I wish we could have that wishing I could have a normal mother but I know that can never happen she wont change so I need to just tell her and let it go I guess, I feel lost

try to c things through her pint of view.have patience with her b because I gauruntee when you loose her,your guna wish you could of had and done things with her

sometimes in life, people do things to us that as much as we would like to, we can’t find in ourselves to forgive. if you cannot forgive her, then at least tell her now how you feel, maybe se has something bottled up that she feels she needs to tell you before it’s too late, she may just need you to take the first step. if she is going to die, then you NEED to go talk to her, just be honest. if you hate yourself now, you’ll hate yourself more once she is gone, and you wish you could have told her what she did to you, and how she made you feel. good luck. this can’t be easy, I’m sorry.