Every day feels like it drags

maybe you’re living in a life with too much repetition, try new things try something you’ve always wanted to try…make your life exciting, you can’t just sit there and wait for something to happen, go make it happen, you only live once, enjoy it while you can

Have you been checked out for Post-natal depression?

Just found this on http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinformation/mentalhealthproblems/postnatalmentalhealth/postnataldepression.aspx

Do any of these apply to you maybe?

What does it feel like to have PND? Depressed

You feel low, unhappy and wretched for much or all of the time. You may feel worse at particular times of the day, like mornings or evenings. Occasional good days give you hope but they are followed by bad days which make you despair.

Irritable

You may get irritable with other children, occasionally, with your baby, but most often with your partner. He or she may well not understand what is happening.

Tired

All new mothers get pretty weary, but depression can make you feel so utterly exhausted that you feel physically ill.

Sleepless

Even though you are tired, you can’t fall asleep. You wake at the crack of dawn, even if your partner has fed the baby overnight.

Not hungry

You lose your appetite and forget to eat, which can make you feel irritable and run down. Some people eat for comfort and then feel bad about putting on weight.

Unable to enjoy anything

You find that you can’t enjoy or be interested in anything.

Sex

Your partner may want the comfort and intimacy of sex again – but you’re just not interested. Of course, there are other reasons to lose interest in sex after having a baby - it may be painful, you may be too tired, or you may be just trying to adjust to the new situation - but PND will take away any desire or enthusiasm. If your partner does not understand this, they may feel rejected.

Unable to cope

PND can make you feel that you have no time, can’t do anything well, and that you can’t do anything about it. You may find it hard to organise a routine with your baby.

Guilty

Depression changes your thinking and makes you see things negatively. You may feel guilty, useless or that you are responsible for feeling like this.

Anxious

You may worry so much that your baby might scream, or choke, or be harmed in some way that you are afraid to be alone with him or her. Instead of feeling close to your baby, you may feel detached. You can’t work out what your baby is feeling, or what your baby needs.

Even if you have strong loving feelings for your baby, you can still feel anxious. Most new mothers worry about their baby’s health, but PND can make this overwhelming. You may worry:

That you might lose your baby through an infection, mishandling, faulty development or a ‘cot death’ About ‘snuffles’, or how much weight your baby is putting on If your baby is crying or is too quiet, or if they have stopped breathing That you might harm your baby About your own health

You may find that you need reassurance all the time from your partner, the health visitor, the GP, your family or a neighbour. You may feel panicky - your pulse races, your heart thumps and you may feel that you have heart disease or are on the brink of a stroke.

You may wonder if you have some dreadful illness, or if you will ever have any energy again. The fear of being left alone with all this can cause even the most capable person to cling desperately to their partner, not wanting to be left alone.

without trying to sound rude or unsympathetic - welcome to “parenthood”. just remember…it gets better and better! kids get older, you eventually have more money then you get to do more of what you want to do!

Spend time in nature. Go to the woods, climb a mountain, go to a river, swim in the ocean. Do anything to get outside breathing fresh air. Look at birds and flowers. Sometimes nature can lift people up a bit. Also, get an hour of excercise in every day if you can. That also really helps people feel better, feel productive and get healthier. Do stuff you like to do:swim, run, lift weights, play a sport, go the gym.

Well go places. Like with friends.