Why am I always drawn to guys with problems?

ah unlucky hun

sometimes you dont know that they have problems and you end up liking them then you do find out when you’re already attached, it happens

its upto you if you want to stay, depending on problem of course

good luck

You’re probably a really good friend, and you’re used to feeling like you’re worthy of something. Being there for these guys and always helping them through their problems probably makes them more attracted to you because you care for them, and you like the feeling of being needed so you stick to that type of person.

If you are continuing to pick problem guys, your ‘picker’ may be busted. Try going for guys that do not get you quite as excited on a gut level. I’m not saying that they have to be boring, but you admit that “…every guy (you’re) into has something up with him…”, so you know that a guy you think is really hot, likely has those same problems.

As far as what causes you to pick that type, it could be several things, including the observation that women that had problem Dads when they were young tend to be attracted to that same kind of guy. OR you may have sort of a Florence Nightingale effect, where you find guys that you want to help, to help them get better but then you get overwhelmed by their problems. SO If you continue to pick bad guys, you might gain some insight with therapy.

Good Luck!!

well which guy doesnt have problems!? even the most “normal” are twisted on the inside (normal is a very stretched word)

maybe get to know the guys a bit better before getting into a relationship pick what u like and what u dont

dont go for looks, please thats just gonna get you into more trouble

stay safe :D

Informer

I have the same problem bt with women. Idk wt it is but its very irritating…

This would take psychoanalysis and many hours in therapy. Who knows. You were taught that is the relationship norm and that is your comfort in relating to others. You want to help fix someone. You feel as if you deserve someone broken (who matches up with your inner broken-ness). You want to be needed that much. You fear abandonment so you get together with guys who you know it cannot really last with. You fear abandonment so you get together with guys who are broken and so will need you and never leave you. Seriously, we can’t tell you why you are drawn to guys with issues. The first step is realizing that it isn’t a coincidence you’re drawn to all these guys with issues. Now, you go figure out why.