Doubts about my boyfriend

Im not sure but I have a feeling my boyfriend is gay. I know hes not but sometimes he acts like it. Hes never been with a girl hes a virgin but so am I… We’re both over 18 years old. Hes actually never been touched by a girl… But hes really affectionate with me. He said the reason he hasnt been with other girls because he hasnt found the right one and their all sl*ts and sleep around and are dirty etc. He says im the one and he loves me… I always wanted a guy like him but now that I have him I have doubts and I dont know why… I should be lucky I have a boyfriend like him! Hes all I ever wanted. What should I do? I dont want to lose him. We are in a long distannce relationship as well which makes it a lot harder… What are some ways to keep the romance going? The longer I go without seeing him the less I get attached.. The thing is I like this other guy too but hes opposite of my boyfriend, hes a player and gets all the girls.. I wouldnt want a boyfriend like that but for some reason im really attracted to this other guy

Answer #1

Its normal to be attracted to another guy when you’ve been dating someone for a long time- especially someone who isn’t like your boyfriend- you’re probably just curious as to how different it would be. I’m not exactly sure what your main problem is here… as for the gay thing, just because a guy is a virgin doesn’t mean he’s gay, and just because he wants to wait for the right person doesn’t mean he is, either- some guys just see sex as more meaningful. I don’t blame him for not wanting and STD or anything… As for the distance, just make sure that you keep in touch as much as possible, and don’t just call each other or email, write each other an actual letter sometime- its more thoughtful. As far as keeping the romance alive, maybe you could send him a little gift once in a while- maybe burn him a cd of songs that remind you of him and have him send you one, too. When you do see each other, do something really romantic and nice one day, like go out for a nice dinner, and the next just chill together. But if you have to keep telling yourself that you’re lucky to have him and that he’s all you’ve ever wanted, its probably not right. But don’t think that it isn’t right just because you’re thinking about another guy, because thats totally normal.

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