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This is long, but I'd REALLY appreciate some advice! It's a "what do I do with my best guy friend" question haha
I told my best friend, Mike, who I've known for about 7 months, that when I had first met him I had a small crush on him, but I "got over it" (I clearly haven't). He responded with, "Aww :) well, when I first met you my intention was to hook up with you, but you rejected me so I got discouraged. But I'm glad we became friends, because if we hooked up, it would have gone down a different path."
Long story short, I didn't mean to reject him, he mistook my actions for rejection. But we became very close after that, and now we are best friends. We flirt constantly, sleep in the same bed sometimes (although he tries to avoid touching me in any way), he drives from his home a half hour away to be with me just to see me for a half hour at a party, meets my friends and gets along with them great. We text each other every day, talk on the phone basically every day, go to the gym together occasionally, and sometimes, when he's drunk, he wants me to kiss him on the lips. I do, and he likes it, but we don't do anything past a peck. His close friend asked me if I liked him or if I would hook up with him, and keeps sort of hinting to me that Mike likes me. Mike always touches me in a flirty way, and when we dance at clubs, it gets intense. He even holds my hands, which is something he doesn't do with any other girl he dances with. He's told me that he thinks my girl friends are hot, but he's never actually pursues them. He is constantly telling me about how he reads too much into girls' actions, and he tells me about the girls he thinks are hot or he wants to hook up with, which is either him trying to make me jealous, or a clear sign that he's just not that into me. But, at the same time, my friends tell me that "it's obvious that he likes me." Multiple times he has randomly said things like, "Man, we are a good looking set of friends." I am the one girl he is always, ALWAYS spending time with constantly... even when other girls he is apparently into fling themselves at him. He still hangs out with me so much more than he hangs out with them. If he wasn't that into me, wouldn't he not be around me as much as he is? Or is it just because we are best friends?
He isn't over his ex girlfriend and he vents to me about that, and he's told me that he isn't looking for a relationship right now, he just wants to hook up and try to forget about his ex. I know 100% that he doesn't want a relationship, so I got that... I'm not looking for that with him (at least not right now). But that doesn't necessarily stop him from having feelings for someone! My gut instinct is telling me that he DOES like me, but since he's told me constantly that he needs encouragement from girls in order to pursue them, and the fact that I had "rejected" him in the beginning, he isn't making a move on me anymore because he thinks I put him in the Best Friend Zone. I feel dumb for asking advice about this because I feel like I should know. But I just can't figure it out. And it's seriously just pissing me off at this point.
Thanks for reading! Means a lot.
well I have this one friend who I've known scece I was a sophmore , and he works at a grosury store . and every time we ( as in me and my fam go there ) it seems like hes always waighting and every time he sees me he always smiles this really big smile , its kinda cute anyway . so there was this one time when me and my mom were in the frozen food section and he walked through our ille about 5or more times and then . he said it was really nice to see me and he never said that befor , then a little while latter he walked by again and wenked at me and smiled . and my parents think he likes me but I dont know . awatingyouranser..
I can see why you are having a hard time with this. The hints that he likes you are there, but the hints that he just sees you as a friend are also there. I am in the same situation. My friends tell me that my friend likes me, too. It's hard to just walk up and be like, "I like you." This may sound bad, but has the potential to work..next time ya'll are drinking some liquid courage, mention it then. Just be like, how do you think we would be if we were a couple, or something along those lines. It's always easier when you have liquid courage..I Know that it sounds bad, but it's just reality..Good luck.
he obviously likes you and you should tel him that you didn't mean to reject him and ps I skimmed through half the story if you are gonna make it "long story short" you should really add the short part because I was gonna fall asleep before I made it throughthe story so in the future make it short not l o and g lol
I don't know...I have a best guy friend and im not sure weather he likes me or not.So I can't really help.But in end you should just tell him that you didn't mean to make it seem like you rejected him.Hopefully things will change for you.
