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Does he not want me??

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. The last 2 1/2 we have been living together. In the beginning we made love at least four times a week. Now it's like once every two weeks or even longer.

I try to initiate sex several times during the week but he usually always shoots me down with some lame excuse. One evening after being turned down I noticed that he was masterbating in the shower. So I have watched him shower for several weeks now and he masterbates every time he showers.

Why would he turn me down with the excuse he's not in the mood but yet get off in the shower?? Does all men masterbate in the shower?? I'm starting to think I don't turn him on..

He also frequents online sex sites after after using the excuse that he's not in the mood..

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Answer #1

well to answer one question some man do masturbate on the shower while they are on a relation ship too. o.k it has to be one or the other ither he has some nasty rash on his penis or down below he does not whant you to see or you hurt him maybe you too tight and you got to do some thin about it finger yourself or buy a power tool you know does things that look like mans penis but don't do it while his around and one of does night on the shower wait for him to stop mans got to get tired and when he is about to start goin the shower and say some thing like "no body says no to me or now you have to make love to me cause you i'nt tired.if this works out and or you want some more advice email me at kjax2003@msn.com

Answer #2

he is bored with you and somewhat disturbed. move on.

some guys get so involved with their porn that they ignore that real person right next to them.

Answer #3

Have you ask him about his Masterbateing ? I am just wondering . If you noticed it you should some how approach him with the question. mabey ask him and see how he feels about masterbateing ? If he is mean to you in his replye then you will no. Mabey you should try getting in the shower are asking him if you can join him. Try this and see how this works sometime showers together are fun:) I had those before They are extremly nice dont leave just yet. It mabey that he is bored but you can ask him if there is anything you can do to change it be prepared for anything.

Answer #4

I live with my boyfriend and your story sounds just like mine! I learned to stop taking no for an answer and well… for lack of better words "be a man". Sometimes that worked for me and sometimes I still got rejected. Sometimes our guys hate doing all the work (ie being on top) so take the initiative and just pounce him! :) All of this aside, sit down and talk with him. I found out alot of things about my bf and his sex behavoirs that way. Ask him why he turns you down but you noticed him masterbating and his online sites… and let him know that you feel hurt. It's not taboo to talk about your sex life, he is afterall your boyfriend.

Hope this helps!

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