Does he even care?

Dear Nicole, This is tough.. You would like to deliver some hurt to them and then watch them suffer….Right?? The problem with your feelings is that it never stops….Today you want you ex to suffer. What happens when you get (in your mind) hurt by someone else in the future? This “I want to make them pay” mentallity NEVER EVER stops. It will go on through every stage of your life, IF you don’t get it under control. It creates inner turmoil within yourself. It takes away from YOUR mental creative thinking. Everytime you start enjoying yourself this animocity comes through to destroy any fun times or enjoyable thoughts. In otherwords you are restricting yourself from a truly happy life now and in the future, over future times being (wronged in your mind). What happens as you get older is that a partner slowly worms it’s way into the animocity….This partner is called denial, and every time you can’t control others into acting and feeling WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO FEEL/ACT you will feel upset with the people you are trying to control and this animocity will come wrapped up in denial to give YOU a miserable life for you!! a miserable life for your kids!! a miserable life for your spouse!! YOUR best friend will be anti-depressants because now the denial has such a hold on you that it controls you WITHOUT you even realizing it. GET OVER THE I WANT THEM TO PAY mentallity!!!! Maybe just maybe if you look at yourself there is something you could improve on in your next relationship. Make the split with your ex be a learning experience for you. There is so much out there for you to learn from….and there has to be some learning experience from this experience..Don’t let it get all clouded up from denial and animocity. Start now and look for the learning experiences. learn something about yourself that YOU can improve on. You have so much to offer….FORGET about all the “look what they did to me” thoughts. Move on and put them and the past situation out of your mind and REALLY hope for the best for them. Truly wish happiness on them…Try and really feel it….You don’t have to want to be around them, just look at them as you would look at a stranger. Do you want the stranger hurt? Do you want the stranger to have a bad day etc…? No, you smile say hi and move on without any hurtful thoughts. This is the peace that will bring you a happier life no matter how rich or poor you are….Maybe (this) is the learning experience you will take with you the rest of your life. Familycoach