Do you think I would be a good mother?

It’s up to you to break the cycle of abuse. Since you can talk about it, and you know what happened to you and are not blocking it out, you are a great candidate for being a super great mom. Motherhood can be trying and very hard sometimes, but just remember your childhood and remember not to repeat the mistakes. In these circumstances it’s best to wait until you are a little older to become a mother. After you have established yourself in a good job, a good relationship, and a lot of stability. Good luck.

It’s true that a lot of people who have been abused tend to have problems in later life, but not all of them do. As long as you recognize when something is becoming a problem and try and resolve it in a healthy way, try and do whatever is best for your kid, there is no reason that you will not be good parents. Remember though that good intentions sometimes go wrong, so if something is becoming a problem, you really do need to get help. A lot of people cannot get over their past on their own, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t get over it with some help. It’s a good sign you’re thinking about it, it shows you will care about your children, and that’s already a step in the right direction…

чeah there right , some people do have problems but if it made чou feel reallч upset & чou dint like it. well then ii think чou would , because if чou want children & it rlii did hurt чou & make чou upset’ practialч wanting to die then I would doubt чou would laч a finger on them , as чou have expericed it happing to чou & чou dint like it, so there’s a such waч чou woudnt do it to them as чou woudnt want them to feel like how чou did,

Think of that you and your b/f will be calm and patient enough being good parents. If you two are too “explosive” then it may be a harm on the stability of your plannad family. Think of that also, you and your b/f have or have not an inclination to being alcocholic or drug dependent, I mean later in the life, when some problems will be there to solve somehow. So there are some insecure points in your life-story, but do not loose you hope, I have seen some childehood abused people being very good parents. Try to develop the ability to really know you own inherent nature and you b/f’s inherent character. I hope you two will build up a warm an lovely family life.

I too had abuse as a child and I have had 2 kids and would never do to them what happened to me. the only thing I can tell you is that if you dont recieve some sort of councilling for your own grief you were caused then you may not be mentally prepared to raise your own kids. its really hard to deal with your own issues whilst raising your kids. hope this helped. feel free to ask anything else. xx