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my only living parent is my dad. my mom died when I was 2. I miss her a lot. I think that my dad forgets about my mom by working himself to death. what do you think?he won’t even talk about her anymore and he gets mad when other people do. I have to know about my mom because I never really had the chance to get to know her. I know that he feels guilty because he couldn’t stay faithful to her while she was dying but that is his own fault. no matter what you should always stand by the person you love and help them deal with their problems. I guess my dad just isn’t that kind of guy. now my dad is with the girl that he cheated on my mom with and it kills me inside knowing that my mom should be with my dad not her. she never liked my mom. she doesn’t like a lot of people in my family and I hate for it. should I hate her?

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Answer #1

Aww sweetie, I’m so sorry about the loss of your mom, but I can tell you this much…it hurts to lose a parent no matter how old you are when they pass. I lost my mom when I was 42 and I still cry about her and miss her to this day.

I would imagine your dad is still hurting too, and although I can’t say this about every man who loses his wife, I do know that ‘my’ dad turned into an absolute grouch after my mom died. When you lose someone you had planned to spend the rest of your life with, it has to be sooo difficult.

Do you know for a fact that your dad cheated on your mom with the woman he is now with? After all, you were just a baby…how do you know that for sure? Did someone tell you that?

I bet your dad loves you very much and nothing in the world is ever going to change that.

I don’t know what to tell you about the woman who is with your dad now…maybe you could talk to her? She might even feel a bit insecure and would really like to be your friend.

Best of luck to you and I hope everything works out…

Answer #2

Im very fortunate to have 2 living, healthy parents. Im so sorry about your mom, and they way your dad is acting. I bet, even if he wasnt faithful to her, he still misses her terribly, and working really hard is his way of coping. As for the other woman, your dad still loves and cares about you, even if it doesnt seem like it. So maybe write him a letter telling how you feel. Maybe he is only seeing this other woman, because he needs another woman in is life. To you, and i bet your dad, your mom is irreplaceable. Keep a journal, make new friends, but try to stay posititve!

Answer #3

wen i was 4 my mum n dad split up n wen i was 8 my dad would rather go with his new wife that choose his kids n ive always hated my step mum for that but that coz other things have gone personally if u do h8 her then u should but dnt let it get in the way of u and your dad coz he mite choose the wrong lane and u could end up losing him aswell so if u do h8 then just dnt talk to her or make friction between the family but i kinda no wot ur goin through if i didnt help im sorri but i do hope i have

Answer #4

I have both my parents, and I am sorry for your loss, my own father only has about a yr left to live!

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