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Do I stand by him and help him?

The man I’ve been with for 12 and a half years is going through a depression. We are living a part now so he can work things out. Besides the depression he has feelings for someone else too. He’s not sure what they are and is trying to deal with everything on his own. I believe he does love me and when we’re spending time together it’s always great. But I can’t get past the other girl part. He hasn’t done anything but chat with her via text email and they work together sometimes so he’ll see her at work. I want to wait for him to figure things out because it was a great relationship we had and I know he’s worth it even though he thinks he’s worthless right now. Am I blinded by my love or do I know him well enough to stand by him and wait. He says in the end of all this he sees us together. I’m having a hard time seeing it myself. Any opinions?

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Dear sad1, Sorry…but you need to move on. When people love each other they don’t move out to work their problems out they work them out together. Depression isn’t a reason to be flirting with other women. He’s asking you to wait around to see if he is going to get with this other one…if he doesn’t he’ll have you. So give yourself a shake and tell Mr. looking for something better to stay gone and you need to move on. Sue…good luck

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