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Dirty house, should I help he clean it up?

I got a mate she has a young son. She regullary takes drugs, her home is a complete pig sty , she is always having a drama , one of her relatives has called Social services , apparently thery are happy, although the state of the house was mentioned , I tokld her it is a state and she went mental , when I say the home is a mess it looks like a squat , shall I just leave her to her life of dirtyness and never ending drama, or offer to help her clean up, which in seconds would be a mess again,

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Answer #1

You should hire someone to help clean the house since its a health hazard for this lady to live in. Or, you need to see if she can be put in adult Foster care since she has a mental illness. I’m sorry to be rude about her but, she’s completely nuts. You can at least offer to clean the house, and, see what she says but, remember, she is going to mess it up again as you state in your question so, I would move her out since she seems like she can’t be left alone. Don’t expect too much from your house maid since she’s having drama issues and is too lazy to clean house. So, what’s the point for cleaning whn she’s going to mess it up? She’s so dependent and should move out. But, maybe clean it once then if she messes it up again, hire someone to clean or in the beginning of my answer, put her in Foster Care. Hope this helps.

Answer #2

there is more to “clean up” than just a dirty house… and you want to be careful if you want to take on all of that… if you attempt to clean her house she may take it as a sign of interference, and you’re trying to control her life…

but I def agree with Sue, call up the DCFS… even if she has a right to live however she wants, she doesnt have a right to subject her child to that…

Answer #3

Dear leighx, Well I’m not sure what your question is but if social services were called they failed to do their job. Apparently they are happy? Of course not, a child with a mother who is an addict and living in filth is not happy. I suggest you call S.S. again and relay your concerns. We seem to forget it’s about the children and not about are we afraid our friend will be mad at us??? It is your responsibility to make sure this child is taken care of, don’t sit back and let this child suffer. Sue…good luck

Answer #4

leave her, you can do better

Answer #5

Nah, I’ve never liked stereotypes. I’d say that you are being yourself. That’s a very good thing.

Answer #6

Oops, sorry. I posted this to the wrong question. My apologies.

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