Christians, did I do the right thing?

Relationships are difficult bottom line. Esp. when two, differ, in beliefs.

God doesn’t want us to be unhappy, thru the christian faith you can only talk to people about God yet, we can’t and don’t convert anyone.

If you truely believe in prayer, well, God does work in misterious ways and you probably got your answer.

I’ve been in a relationship over 18yrs and my husband does not have the same beliefs as me, we have two kids and I can’t say there has not been problems but, that’s just how it is. He won’t ever change my mind about God even though he does believe in Him he doesn’t go with us to church or practice what I do,but, I’m not even dealing with that part. I try and practice my faith as best I can without making other people uncomfortable incl. him. When he is curious of anything well I answer and he doesn’t mind.

In your case most important of all weigh the good vs. the bad OF the relationship itself and see if it’s worth it, to stay in it. Besides the religious part of it what else is there? Just keep all your answers in mind and think it through.

But, yeah keep in mind long-term because, that’s where it’ll make the difference.

it should not matter what his religion is as long as you care about him and he I not shoving it in your face there is no reason for it to be a problem unless you want to spend the rest of your life with him and even then it’s possible it just takes love honesty and compromise

It could have worked if you had stayed together, but only if you were willing to live and let live. It doesn’t sound like you’re willing to do that.

Does this sound familiar? —>”I love you just the way you are, now change”

I agree with toadaly. It is not his fault. He was not the one saying he couldn’t live with you. It is you who can’t live with his beliefs. I am sorry, but to me that is very shallow and self-centered.

I am married to a strong believer. We manage quite well.

personally I dont think it would have worked out its wrong to try to convert someone over to your religion and rarely does it work out between a devoted christian/catholic and someone whos agnostic/athiest unless all religiouse and non religiouse beleifs can be put aside, then it doesnt really work out

You’ve thought and prayed and asked for advice over a long period - this was not a snap decision. If this is the result of all your efforts to make the right decision, then it probably is the right decision! You also haven’t completely closed the door - maybe some time down the road things will be different and you could get back together. But for now I think you are right.

In my opinion, I think maybe it was, not a bad move but a very unusual one. So what if he has different beliefs, it doesn’t make HIM any different as in talking about personality or anything else. Sure you may have different religious beliefs, but if you really liked the guy why get rid of him? Let him believe his ways and you believe your ways.

It’s good you broke up with him so he no longer has suffer your tunnel vision & close minded opinions. Just becaouse yu believe in something doesn’t make it real, you have to realize that & accept people for who they are. It’s not his fault you couldn’t see past his creed that it didn’t work out. If you weren’t so blind & narrow minded it might of.

Not everyone believes the same way you do, it does not mean that they are any less faithful in there own way. I’m something of a Universalist and I believe that if you are a good person with good morals and you always try to do what you believe is right then you will go to Heaven or have a higher place in reincarnation. There are people who claim Christianity who are evil just like there are people from every religion that do not try to the right thing or convince themselves that a certain text means something because they read it how they want it. Religions are all labels for the same thing, faith in a higher entity that rewards those with good intentions and good hearts. I could never believe that a buddhist, who will not kill a cockroach, will go to hell because he did not agree with christianity which has caused the death of millions.

I beliee you did a WRONG thing because first:

you want him to believe what you believe in.

he is allowed to believe and grow and find the answers on his own.

Should not listen to others (like Gram) and help you make decisions or curb your way of thinking into theirs.

You may have ruin your love and fun before you started a relationship with him.

He may ave been the next pastor of the church 10 years from now.Stop listenin to others. heres a question…Moses wrote the FIRST 5 books…the 5th book at the last chapter…how did he write his own death?

Life is good, stop being misdirected. You could have been his guide to Jesus. You could have ruin the chance for him to become a christain. YOU JUST NEVER KNOW RIGHT?

I believe that you did do the right thing…keep in contact with him- don’t give up on him becuase he does still have hope. God works in so many mysterious ways. My grandma (back in the day) stayed with my grandpa just becuase she didn’t wwant his soul to be lost and now 55 years later it ayed off!! keep wiht him god will come around! but dont shove it on him take time :)

god bless

If you cannot cope with him not believing in what you do then you did do the right thing because a relationship is not about right and wrong it is about companionship and care to one another. There are a lot of gray areas that you move into and everything is shared. If you cannot do it then he cannot make you and nobody says you need to give up your beliefs to anybody or anything.

Personally I do not care what religion they are because a religion doesn’t define me nor should it define my mate.

YES YOU DID THE RIGHT THING THE BIBLE SAYS TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO IS EQUALLY YOKED WHICH MEANS ON THE SAME LEVEL OF YOU