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My boyfriend got really violent today and I left with my grandma im 18 and I have a baby I lied to my grandma and told he that our house was getting fixed and all the dust was bad for my four month old baby I have no money and nowhere to go what should I do I cant stay with my grandma because she lives in a retirement centr

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Answer #1

I’m a mom who has an 18 yr.old daughter with a 4 month old daughter.she just did the same thing saying her house was being sprayed for pest.please find a way to get out.if he is like this now imagine what life will be.also do you want your baby to think thats the way you should be treated or treat someone?you have to want more for you and the baby.it will be hard and many tears will fall.but at least it is pain than you have power of not pain he has powering over you.

Answer #2

Hi, I didn’t see what country you live in. If it’s the US you can definitely get help from the state, especially having a baby. Even if you have to move away - in fact it might be a good idea to get away from the boyfriend for good. If not get a restraining order put on him. He can’t be violent with you. Get away while the baby is still young. Tr get evidence that he was violent and report it to the cops or somewhere - welfare or an organisation for single moms. There are quite a few around, just search online. Don’t be ashamed to go there either, it’s not something permnent, just to help you onto your feet again. All the best hey and be strong. You must for yourself and the baby.

Answer #3

Gosh.What a headache?What you were thinking of to have a kid of your age,dear?Anyway,the mistake is made,u gotta take care of the kid,but better never get back to your boyfriend. Try to ask someone close to you some help,find a job and rent an apt.Start a new life only with your kid and maybe in the future u’ll find a nice guy as well.Open your eyes.U are younger than me and haVing so many on your head.I ‘m sorry for that.:(

Answer #4

I would strongly suggest that you call any relative you have relations with and see if they can help you. Please be honest, even if you have to ask them to keep quiet about it until you and your baby are both safe. That is the most important thing right now.

If you have no close relatives that can help you, contact your local authorities as soon as possible. I know most people don’t trust state government when it comes to abused women and their children but trust me, they can and will help and they are NOT all about taking your baby from you. You obviously understand the importance of the situation.

But please, don’t just go back to him, or anyone that would harm you or your baby. There is always another and better option available to you.

Answer #5

friends, family? if your really really desperate then there are probably hostels for people in the same position as you or even places for the homeless…

Answer #6

Call up a close friend of yours that lives near by and explain what you need.

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