Im going into high school this year and thats supposed to be something everyone looks forward to. High school should be an amazing memory. I want to enjoy it but I cant…it doesnt help to say I need to view things differently because I dont. I’ve been depressed for about only a year and a half and im 14. I’ve also started eating much much less because I just dont want food…my family doesnt understand me either I feel as if I dont fit in with them and it hurts I spend every night crying and its really hard for me to fall asleep too. I don’t know what to do about this my mom gets mad at me soometimes and says I need therapy or counceling but we never get into it..please help

Answer #1

Aww babes, Don’t be woried, just take each day as it comes, and maybe you’ll met some proper nice friends. And about the counciler, do whatever you thinks best.

Good luck m’sweetypie ♥

Answer #2

Hey yuuy, I understand where you are comming from and trust me in your early teens it is the hardest thing to understand I was diagnosed with bipolar or manic depression when I was 16 having suffered it from 13 I am now 26 I do try and get on with life and do things to try and be positive however some days its just so damn hard to get up I have less energy then I would like and little to no motivation. New and what should be exciting things scare me at times and I find it a little harder to get on with day and day life. Counseling didnt help me as much however talking to someone was sometimes all I wanted to do but this a decision you need to make yourself some people find counseling a world of help, others it actually makes matters worse. Its always a good idea to at least try it once and find out which category you find yourself in.

I have been on a cocktail of different anti depressents but for me it has been the same story they made me a little worse and made me feel as if I was in a bubble. It is hard for someone especially a younger person as you say to try and get people around you to understand unfortunately those who dont have depression some may never understand and this is just human nature and it will take time for you to accept this. This doesnt mean that they dont love you and dont want to support you its just difficult for someone to take something like depression which isnt tangible that cant see and relate to it. Many will tell you to just get on with it or ask you well whats wrong whats making you feel like this (I believe there is many different types of depression some brought on by grief or negative situations in life where there is actually a reason that makes you done. To actual mental disability of depression where there its actually really nothing that makes you depressed this may have been triggered by something in the past that youve been unable to recover from or it may just be a chemical inbalance in your brain) This type of depression is the type that makes you feel ordinary in the morning and gives you no motivation with no reason to why you feel like this,. Everything can be great and you will still feel like this. If this is how you feel dont let other people get you down when they say well just stop being negative get out of it or wake up. remember you have a right to feel like this but only you can pick yourself up even though this maybe the hardest thing in the world to do!

You will also find that people that cant deal with how you feel may call you annoying or stupid its up to you to realise that this is just there ignorance and there inability to handle how you feel and this maybe a number of reasons why they act like this it may be because they have there own problems they cant deal with or they just dont understand what depression is.

I always found (for me) listening to self help and positive thinking tapes or books as helped me rearrange my thoughts and understand myself a little better but unfortunately it will not stop your lack of energy or lack of motivation this is something that most likely will continue but if you can learn to try and support yourself and understand yourself a little better that is a start.

Answer #3

Don’t be shy! This is easier said than done for many people but it is essential. Even if you are painfully shy by nature you are in a new environment and nobody at your new school know about your shyness. So put on a big smile and start out by being friendly to everybody you see. Introduce yourself to people when you find a seat in class. Sit down in a place where you feel comfortable (yes, the back of the class is OK) and make a point if saying hello to the people sitting near. A good opening line; “Hi, my name is Joe and I’m new here. Do you know, is this teacher any good?” Find your niche group. Look for the type of people you were friends with in your old school and approach them. Ask if you can join them for lunch or during class look to pair up with somebody from that group. Believe it or not the majority of teens are more than happy to make a new friend. Join a club or a team. This is the easiest way to meet people at a new school (or meet new people at your old school) because while being an organized event it is in a much more casual setting than the classroom. You get a chance to spend time with peers who have similar interests to yours and you get to bond with them in a more laid back environment. Don’t be afraid to stand out. If you are good at a certain sport or do well in a certain subject don’t be afraid to strut yourself. People are drawn to people with talent and stifling yours to avoid being a show-off will only end up hurting you. So if you have a special talent or skill make it known. Be mindful of prosocial norms at your school. This simply means try to fit in by observing the positive norms at your school. If your new school is a big football school become a fan. If your school is more academically inclined join a study group. Find out what makes your school tick and join in the fun.

Have a great year !!

Answer #4

Simply a Rose to brighten your day,         And maybe lessen the cares in your way;         And also, too, to help you to know,         That in knowing you, many others grow!

  You are at an age where hormones, emotions and even your brain are undergoing strong changes. It is natural to occasionally feel confused or depressed.

The best thing you can do is to talk to a counselor or therapist. Barring that, find someone you can communicate your emotions and thoughts with, sort of like a sounding board. Keeping your thoughts to yourself doesn’t help. If you can’t find someone around you then consider Fun Mailing someone on Fun Advice.

Check out the link below for information on teen depression.

Information on teen depression:

   If you are having problems or are depressed, below are a couple of sites that may help you:


Check out the Befrienders link below. They are not only a suicide hotline but also offer help to people who are stressed or are in a state of depression.

In the U.S.A., you also have access to:

Girls and Boys Town National Hotline

Call With Any Problem, Any Time


Answer #5

first of stiop worrying about something thats int future, I mean your problems are not reducing are they ??

 Want to  try something DIFFERENT ???  just do the following RIGHT NOW ;

1–chant ‘hari om’(hari as in HURRY & om as in HOME without the ‘H’) do this repetedly & a point will come where you will feel like you just want to close your eyes ( in that case case do it).At this point increase the number of O in om like HARI OOOM & then HARI OOOM & so on.when you chant this VEDIC MANTRA then remain silent (no thinking!,fidgeting,moving,etc) for an amount of time taken to chant this one mantra.this looks very very simple but its effects are very very very large (even ALBERT EINSTEIN would not had imagine it !!!). this is called ‘CHUP SADHANA’ & I learned it from ‘param pujya ASARAMJI bapu’.—>” “ also read JEEVAN RASAYAN a book from —“… “ tihs will help remove all weakness from you,believe me millions have obtained benefits from it ,literally.

note: women durimg their periods are not to chant OM but they can chant HARI

this I say to you on basis of teachings of ‘param pujya ASARAMJI bapu’

Answer #6

If you put all the things into Petty and the huge problems in main then you don’t get over loaded. High school is hard by itself, not counting peer pressure, clothing, dating, boys, little clicks, school subject,,,I can see why you feel overwhelmed.

try to do things like drama where you can act out some of your feelings. You might have a lot of anger or disappointment and try not to assume people will act a certain way or the way you want them to…sometimes even we adults assume certain things should happen a certain way then we get our feelings hurt and keep getting them hurt because we assume too many things in life.

Hold you head up high becasue YOU HAVE A LOT TO OFFER THE WORLD AND YOU ARE LOVED BY ALL OF US HERE, WE ACCEPT YOU FOR THE GREAT PERSON YOU ARE. YOU ARE LOVING, KIND, GENTLE AND CARE A LOT ABOUT PEOPLE AND others right now don’t always see the loving side, giving side of you.

Get involved in working with kids, drama, animals somethiing that makes you happy not what makes other happy..,,I see you will make it just give yourself some hugs and remember you are always loved. you an always email

From time to time I help someone who is depressed..I know what depression is I live through it every day.

Answer #7

Hi there… So I just finished up my freshman year. When it was around mid-term time, I was diagnosed with depression after a suicide attempt. Nothing made made me feel excited, everything just lead me to crying at night in my bed. Let me just put it this way, teens are jerks sometimes and a lot of people don’t understand what it’s like to be depressed. This is where I really found my counselor to be quite helpful. I go to a family and marriage counselor. She is the best thing that ever happened to me. For one hour every week you can talk to someone who truly understands and is there to listen to you and not judge you. I really recommend finding yourself a really good counselor. Every morning it’s a new day, a day to make a difference, a day to be positive. I find that the best ways to feel better are simply giving someone a compliment, holding the door for someone, giving your mom a hug, listening to a motivational tape, going for a run. (little things make a big difference!!!) Please e-mail me anytime b/c it’s nice to know that someone is just like me and I’m not the only one struggling with this terrible thing. God bless you! please feel free to e-mail me at

Answer #8

Im not sure but how can someone so young be so depressed ..?? how?? what is it to worry about..? life is hard and gets harder as you get older . its best to deal with the small stuff now. it helps you when you get older… smile:( :)

Answer #9

you might be bipolar I am and I dont want to fo to high school at all you should check out the symtoms

Answer #10

my life is just like urs during school days

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