DADDY ABUSED ME

I was sexually abused by my dad back when I was 13, it hasnt really hit me yet,but sometimes I get outbursts and cry or just go really mad and screw at everyone,my dad has been in and out of my life,along with his 13and more many kids lives and now he has sexually abused another of his kids, he has been put in pen[prison] for a certain amount of years,I always feel uncomftorbale around some boys is this normal,I miss my dad as my mum is not very affectionate towards me,so I vie for some attention,and I dont know any of my dads family and I really want to get in contact with his family but I dont know how because they live in jamaica. isit wrong to still love my dad

Answer #1

no its not wrong that you love your dad. does your mom know what has happened to you exactly and how your feeling? im thinking maybe you should go and see someone professional to speak to about the way you feel

Answer #2

DONT WORRY ABOT HIM NO MORE IF your OVER 18 GET OUT THE HOUSE

Answer #3

Its ok to still love your dad… You miss him and your mom needs to hang-out with you more…

Answer #4

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Answer #5

I was also sexually abuse by my father from the age of 10. Then when I was 15 he got me pregnant. Im now 16 and trying to move on even though its hard. He’s now in prison. I understand when you say that you miss your father,sometimes I miss my father aswell. Our fathers did something really bad us and now they have to be punished. Try and talk to someone you trust, about how you feel. Its better out than bottled up inside. Ihope that you’re coping alright. I know it will be hard sometimes but be strong.

Answer #6

I was also sexually abused by my father from th age of 10. He got me pregnant when I was 15.Im now 16 and tying to not think about it. He’s now in prison. I used to be very close to my dad, more than anyone else in my family, so I understand when you say that you miss your dad somtimes.Our fathers did something very wrong and they now need to be punished. Try and talk to someone you trust, about the way you feel. Its better when you talk, than to keep it bottled up inside. I hope you stay stong.

Answer #7

No it s not wrong to love your dad. My dad has been sexually abusing me from the time I was 10 till 15. He got me pregnant and he’s also in prison. I miss him a lot at times too. I wouldn’t lie, at times it will be very hard for you, especially coming to terms with what he did to you. I also don’t know much about other side of my family who also come from Jamacia. It seems like we have a bit in common. Anyway all im going to say know is never blame youself for what he did and im sure that a lot of people have told you that already. I hope you a coping ok and I’ll be thinking of you. Take care.

Answer #8

your dad is your dad either way! so no its not wrong people make mistakes even though his wasnt the best he is still your dad he just needs to get sum help you craving affection I hope means you just want to give him hugs because what he did to you is not right at all! of course your going to feel weird and have outburst out of no where you have been through things if you need to talk to someone I am here but if you do start talking to your dad again make sure that never happens again! whenever your in a situation like that make sure it gets taken care of!!

Answer #9

No, it is not necessarily wrong for you to love your dad. Love is a feeling that we tend not to be able to control. If love comes naturally for you (towards your father), then that is not ‘wrong’. What you need to do is actually ask yourself… “Is he actually worthy of my love”? He has abused you as a child and has so many other children (one of which he has also abused. He is in prison for his actions, but you do not actually know whether he has any remorse or whether or not he will do any of this again. He got himself imprisoned which prevents him from being there for any of his children. What kind of a man are you dealing with? That is another question that you need to answer.

I know he is your father and it is sometimes hard to digest the injustices which are dealt to you by a parent. Love can’t be controlled unless you can come to terms with your situation in this instance. If you can answer the questions which are featured above then that should help you understand the situation a bit better. Ask yourself if it is wrong to love this person; we can’t decide what your feelings are for you. Your father has mistreated you terribly and he is not worthy of your love in my opinion, but that is for you to decide :). Think long and hard about this and I’m sure you’ll be able to answer this question without our help.

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