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She actually won't stop, and I tell her to stop and she still does it and says she wasn't copying me yet she was. Ex: I like the color blue. She likes it. I hate it, she hates it. I wear a cardigan to her house. Next time we hangout, she wears a cardigan (gets the same one and says she always wanted it). How can I get her to stop without seeming rude? She's my best friend and all. Another ex: I said I liked Nirvana (I dont really) and she said she does too.... just cause i said i do.
My sister has had the same problem twice. The first girl eventually tried to match her outfit. Then steal her clothes and things. My sister eventually had to write an 'ST' (initials) on everything she owned so she wouldnt steal anything anymore. The second girl, ....she was pretty bad. If my sister started to wear eyeshadow, bang. Shed be wearing it too. If my sis teased her hair, she would also. If she said "Ohh wow" or something a lot, she would say it all the time. She listened to a band, the friend would too. If my sister told a funny joke, she would go around telling everyone it. Wierd thing about the second girl though, is that she straight out admitted it. Saw nothing wrong with copying her. She said "But Sarisa! I want to be JUST like you" all the time, or "Ohh! You do that? Guess I will too!!" And stuff. My sister now isnt friends with either of the two. Im not saying its because of them copying her. For the first girl, it was a contributing factor. For the second, it just amplified how fake she was. Point is, your gonna need to fix it, dont try and let it pass or anything if you want to stay friends. It will eventually annoy the hell out of you, and youll avoid talking to her and hanging out with her.
as already said she see you as a role model, I know how it can get annoying cause one of my mates use to do that. you just have to let her down easy like try to find out what she really likes and what she is copying you with, just try to explain to her you understand she might like or "like" a lot of things you do but doesn't mean she has to be into everything you are, try to show her that being her own person is a lot better then copying others cause it doesn't really get her any where.
Also..You could compliment on things you know describe her and are her, not you. Make her feel confident, and happy with who she is. Compliment on something like for instance a shirt shes had and always used to wear before she began to copy you. Make her miss the old her and appreciate who she is. Compliment on her hair, shoes, whatever it is, make her like herself again.
She's probably copying you because she is insecure. Telling her to stop will probably worsen the situation for her. Rather focus on what she is doing differently from you and compliment her on that i.e. any originality and eventually she should stop copying you.
maybe you are her rolemodel..and she wants to be just like you ...you gotta tell her nice and slow and tell her she gotta have her own personality to be as you and she cant be like you by copying
role model are you ? avoid them or drag them into some kind of danger and make them understand imittating someone is not really a good idea
She copying you because she looks up too you or envy you sometimes it could be good and bad so set a good example
Say STOP
