How can I convince my parents to let me go to the movies alone with my friends and no parents?

I am 14 and i am not alowed to go to the movies alone. All of my friends go to the mall without their parents and hang out there even my boyfriend. I don’t live in a bad area and the mall is secured. My boyfriend is complaining about how I am treated like i am 8, which is true. He asked me to try to convince them. What im thiinking is having a conversation with my mom about this. If she raised me correctly nothing would go wrong. I am a good girl, i have strait A’s, going to graduate with two years of colege done, and i have never lost her trust. How can I convince my mom especially? its not like i am going to stay out until 12am. help please!

Answer #1

Give them a good reason why you should be alone with friends. And not “Everyone else does it!’

Answer #2

Ask for her trust at least this once to show her that you can be a responsible “young adult”/teen and see how things go. Set a time that you’ll need to be home by. Perhaps tell her you’ll call and check in (if so, make sure you do it), and that if anything should happen promise her you’ll call. Tell her you’re coming of age in which you need to start gaining some experience for the “real world”(whatever that is XD), and that you would like to start getting a taste or small sample if what it would be like to be “responsible” rather than being chaperoned by an adult. To have a chance to prove that you can be, and show that you are. And a taste of what it would be like without constant adult supervision. I doubt you’ll be living with her all your life, only for more years until you’re old enough to move out

If she does, keep her trust. Make sure you show up on time, NO later. Perhaps show up a few extra minutes early(but don’t tell her you will so you may impress her), or CALL if you’re going to be late and explain the situation. But make sure it’s not to carelessness or just simply not feeling like going home on time. Have a valid reason if you’re going to be late.

Best of luck, hope this helps. 1_~

Answer #3

agreed not everyone else does it, nor should that EVER be used as a reason why you should or want to. If you ever say that to a parent they’ll think you’ld follow anything the majority does and would be leary of letting you make your own chouces, leary whether you’ld be doing it based off your own judgement or becuz some other ppl do it.

Answer #4

well honey thebest way is to come up with a compromise like u can go but maybe at a specif time lets say u go at 3 and have to be back my like 8 make a comprimise to show ur parents ur willing to make it work not jst begg and defiy them

Answer #5

be cool and say “dude ill me safe. ill have my phone on me and im 14. if anything goes wrong ill call you right away. me going to the movies alone will help show you guys that i can handel being on my own two feet. com’on i can do this. i promise you.” have a nice calme adult voice when you say that

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