Iam 35+ and working as software professioanl from past ten years. In this period I have worked for many organizations and I have never make a good career in any of the company due to lack of problems. I have never worked in any of the company for more than a year. First I will start my weaknesses. I have some problems like communication, listening and understanding,fear,shyness. I wont mingle or interact with any of my collegues. If I start working alone then it will go fine and if the same work has to be done in team then it will be flop. If there is group then I can't talk freely, and I will go fine and good to talk in individuals. If there is any problems with my senior people then I wont give any reasons, just I will be in silent only. If I say anything they wont understand. If they give or explain any task then my presence of mind will be poor. My thinking will go in different directions. I wont understand their requirements unless they tells more and more. If there are girls then I wont talk freely and if they ask anything then I will give reponses in pressure. Please tell me what I have to do for overcomming this problems. I know that if I clear this weaknesses then I make a good move in my career.
Please share your experiences...
I can relate to this xxx123. I've been working in IT for 10 years and have met many people who have had problems with communication, myself included. I certainly don't think you're alone.
I would suggest seeking additional training, as these types of skills can be developed through a respected business school just like your technical skills. I would suggest you look into short courses in "Assertive Communication" as for me those courses have been very influential.
Yes well it is a common problem for those in the IT field. There's groups and training classes on this type of thing... Assertiveness training, Social skills training etc... At the bottom of this is a self esteem issue, which you may have to tackle (I.e. counseling...)
im 17 and I know what you are going through , it really hurts me to see people having fun and im just watching them , I really need help like you do , I just hope you get better and so am I,
Have any of you been tested or screen for social anxiety? Its a very treatable condition.
