How do i cheer my sister up?

Just depines if she’s older or younger. If she’s younger you can take her and like go skating or out for ice cream….ect if she’s older u could do the same or do small things a little gift…ect goodluck

Sig, something tells me you didn’t read anything more than “How do I cheer my sister up?” Please read the full question before you answer something. Ice cream and presents aren’t exactly helpful when your husband is leaving for a war.

*Sigh

thank you heaven and she has already told me that sacrificing my senior year for her was enough and i will always be there to hug her.. i just wanna do something more, i hate to see her in pain

Ah, indeed. Tat is a great sacrifice, for one. Good job there. Pain just happens, especially with women. We get sappy and attached very quickly. You can remind her that he will be coming back, that they can Skype (if not, buy both of them a webcam :) ), that you’ll be there when she needs you, that he’ll miss her just as much as she’ll miss him, etc. In the end, those are all words though. Words don’t heal a wounded heart. Time may, in this case, about a year

*That..grrr, my H is messing up

She will most probably need to wallow for a few days and feel sorry for herself. If she stays in bed/cries/acts miserable all you can do is console her and do the housework, make dinner etc for a few days. Only let her do this for about 3-4 days otherwise she will just go down a spiral of saddness. She should start feeling better by herself but if she doesn’t, take her out to dinner (somewhere that doesn’t remind her of her husband) and make her laugh. Don’t over-power her with things to do, or she will get lost. Have roughly 2 things a week she can look forward to such as going with you to a movie, to dinner, shopping.. anything. Try and include other people in her life. She may want to close other people out of her life and it’s important that she doesn’t do this. Try and have get-togethers with friends and family. Preferably not a bunch of couples otherwise she will get upset. And not too many people- just a few for drinks or dinner etc. Try and get her to focus on something like a project or hobby in her free time. On the other hand- she could act fine. She could get up the next day and carry on life as normal and insist she is fine. This is even worse because she is probably in denial so when she finally realizes her husband will be gone for a year, it will hit her harder than anything. If she wakes up tomorrow completely ‘fine’, you should talk to her deeply about the situation and make sure she does get upset (it sounds mean… but she needs to cry and let her emotions out in order to carry on with life). Don’t do EVERYTHING for her. Or she will feel useless. If you think it will work, you could even pretend you need her help with things- Like ask her how to use the stove.. ask her how to do such and such on the computer.. how to turn on the dishwasher etc. She might need to feel needed, but you know her best so you know if she needs that. Best of luck.

yea.. though its not what i wanted to hear… its the truth, thank you heaven… your an angel ;)

Lol, Renee’s got some good advice up above me…sorry to be the bearer of bad news on my end. You don’t seem like a guy who wants smoke blown up his as$…unless it’s in a dirty way. Lol.

thank you and it does help.. but its just us up here… no friends/ family.. but i will try to keep her up and out, take her to movies and dinner, play xbox and what not.. and she likes to feel needed i know this, so i will ask her for help when i feel its best… thank you renee

u know me so well heaven ;)

Lol, that’s my job :)

buy her stuff meaby shinys her style lol

i thought it was your job to just have awesome power and be a pretty lady…

Just being there, and letting her bounce her feelings off on you…talking seems to help us women. If she wants to go out, go..if she wants to stay in…do so. Let her kind of lead the show, and do what she feels like doing. What a nice brother, you are….

LOL @ Heaven :)

well thank you… i try to be the best i can to her cause i know she would do the same for me… and we usually do what she wants nyways lol

Alas, I have many jobs. It’s part of my awesomeness.

Really? Did you read the question? You want him to help her mourn the loss of her husband going off to war by shining away the pain? Please, please think before you answer something, or at least read the question.