Changes in love

Relationships are a lot of work! Some come easier then others and as you know, up and downs are a normal part of them. What isn’t normal though is just giving up on someone or shutting them out without worrying about the consequences. This is what your boyfriend is doing and it hurts like hell. BUT you’ve through a lot and the way you’ve described his behavior, he sounds a bit depressed. The fact that he is playing his x-box a lot says a lot.He is shutting the world out so he doesn’t have to deal with it anymore. He’s tired and doesn’t feel able to face up to the music. It’s easier to just loose himself in a fantasy world then deal with his other problems: job, love relationship, etc. The fact that things aren’t going to well between probably makes him feel unconformable, guilty and therefore he avoids calling you or spending time with you (facing the problem, x-box is easier). We all have our down times and it might just be that he is going through a phase which also means you’re going to have be EXTRA understanding and patient. My advice is give some space but also talk to him about his behavior. Tell him it’s hurtful but you love him but you understand he isn’t feeling well. Help him see that he’s allowed to be down but that eventually he needs to get himself out of this rut. Tell him you care and that you are willing to help, avoid accusing him of his faults. He says he wants to be with you and it’s probably the truth. You’ve got to trust him that he will tell you if he wants to leave, for now just concentrate on getting over this hump. I know it’s hard but if you’re patient it will probably all work out. Relationships are really wonderful but there are moments where you either make it or break it. This is one of them, are you willing to sacrifice a bit of happiness to help him get over this and is he willing to make the effort to get out it himself? Only time, love and patience will tell. Stay positive. If you’ve made until here, you’ve got great chances to get through this hump too :-)