can love change suddenly?

Well, I know this may be a late message to your problem, but I hoep I’m able to help a little anyway. It seems like maybe this got blown out of proportion. Think about how this all happened in the first place: you were worried about her, and maybe you said some things in the message that upset her. Perhaps you overreacted a little when leaving her the message and perhaps she overreacted a little when she heard it. I think you were angry justfiably because something might have happened to her, but instead of the message coming out “Oh my gosh, girl I was worried about you, what happened? I don’t feel good when I can’t contact you for a whole day, please don’t do that again” Instead of you being worried baout you coming out, maybe it came outt more like you were plain angry with her and why can’t she be more responsible? why can’t you answer your phone? Maybe she got defensive too, and then the whole focus of it went out the window and in the ehat of the moment you said soemthing you didn’t really mean whcih is basically being friends..from what you wrote, it sounds like you you didn’t wnat to be friends, but since she thought that was what you wnated, maybe she was tryingto find a way to tell you she wnated out of the relationship even though it might sound cruel, it surprises me that shedidn’t say “let’s get back together, or hey, I’m sorry or what do you mean? All because of that? Why would you say that?” It seems like she accepted it. I don’t think it was the message that made her do a 360…when you feel like someone isn’t right for you, you know right away but you really ahve to build up your reserve before you tell them something like that because even though you don’t love them in a romantic way, you still don’t wnat to hurt them..even though, I believe, it’s inevitable. I think she might have been thinking about it for a long time, and this was a perfect reason, actually you amde the decision for her: you first said to her that you wnated to be friends even though that’s not what you wnated. In the future, think about what you say before you say it…it goes along with leaving that message too..you don’t mention what you said, but it obviosuly upset her . If I was you though, I’d try to move on from this person and not think too much of the reason why she did what she did…although it may seem like that’s what you really wnat to know, it’ll only eat you up insdie trying to guess what she was really thinking. Be friends with her, and watch your words and your tone if you really wnat to get back with her. If what you said in the message or how you said it or both turned her off, then you need to examine how you talk to women or girlfriends and try to change that the next time you talk to her. If you are still on friendly terms, I would say go ahead and call her and apologize for what you said…maybe if you guys clearly communicate, you can both agree that the both of you overreacted to the message when what you really wnated to know was where she was because you were worried about her..and why are you worried? because you care for her and you say you love her. Be gentle and don’t harass her with phone calls either…play by her rules and she’ll soon trust that you won’t blow up at her again.