can i move out at 17?

I do believe that you would need the consent of a parent or guardian to leave at this age. Why do you want to be married at 18? If you are only 17 then I am pretty sure that the most you could be dating this guy would be around a few years. Getting married and consoling your issues with family by trying to start your own will only continue the cycle until one day you will look back and see that you might have become your mom. With age comes wisdom and that is a lesson that can only come with time. Think of worst case scenarios and try to be a little more pessimistic to keep yourself from getting hurt (your parents can’t stop you from getting hurt and noone else can either, this is something that you have a responsibility to yourself). Ask yourself what you would do without your older boyfriend or soon husband. What if he cheats on you and you leave him? What if he died tomorrow and you were on your own? What then? Would you get a job? Would you already have kids, and if you did wouldn’t your falling out with your parents make it difficult to get help? You should really consider taking a step into life on your own, and try to be self-sufficient before you make the commitment of marriage. Their is a lot of life out of high school that needs to be lived and fun to be had. You might just be cutting off some of life’s better opportunities by jumping into marriage so quickly.

One other thing, and you may not believe this but I married a girl much younger than me who was 20 when I was 27. She had not completely matured yet even at that age, and she realized this near four years later. We are still married, but we spend most of our income on therapy in attempts to stay together. When I was 19 I was sure I had met my soulmate three separate times, yet time changed things. Before marriage, live together. See if things will really work. See what he is like the other hours of the day that you don’t see him. See how he is with money, his ambitions, your financial future, check his quirks, and see if he reacts to any of yours. Psychologists have proven that near a year of “glimmerance” comes to a relationship where both parties are excited about the other, but when the magic and sparks die down (they always do and there is not a single couple out there that will tell you that a relationship isn’t work) most breakups occur at this time. Marriage adds another pickle to this situation.

One other thing….. and this you may find kind of odd, but if he really loves you, then he will also love the ones that made you and raised you because they are a big part of who you are. If he claims to dislike them then you might want to step back and examine him more closely.

Good luck, and a year is not a terribly long time to wait.