Do you call your partner's parents by their first or last name; any other title?

In my culture, I’ve been taught that we are not allowed to call our superiors and those older than us by their first name. I am honestly at loss at what I should call my boyfriend’s parents, they aren’t asian. I have no idea if I should call them by their first names, last names, Micheal’s mom/dad, etc. It seems weird, also to call them by their last names. Anyone care to enlighten me?

Answer #1

I call my partners parents Mr. And Mrs, followed by thr last name

Answer #2

The general rule if he is English is call them by their names. In our culture we say uncle and aunt (it has a different meaning and is a sign of respect), but when someone is English it is safe to call them by their names. What you can also do is to ask your boyfriend’s parents what they would be preferred to be called or ask him.

Answer #3

If he’s just simply “white” or Canadian would that fall under the aunt and uncle? Or first name.

Answer #4

when I had a boyfriend I did the same xD

Answer #5

Definitely Mr and Mrs, regardless of whether they are white, asian, whatever. That is the polite thing to do until they themselves tell you to call them something else.

Answer #6

Thing is I’ve known them for three years haha. I just never really needed to call them by their name or anything.

Answer #7

Gran , granddad <3

Answer #8

Yes, first name basis. (Aunt and uncle isn’t used in any English speaking culture as far as I am aware.)

Answer #9

When I first started dating my boyfriend, I called his parents mrs and mr harvey, then after a few months they told me I could call them mum/dad or by the first names. So first names and mum and dad.

Answer #10

Yeah, when im trying to get my mums attention and not getting it i yell ‘WENDY!’ at her.And may dad is nicknames Dadwa as he is lord if the house lol

Answer #11

I call them dawg.

Answer #12

I don’t think I ever called my b.f’s parents by their lastname. I think thats more of the boyfriends way to go when meeting the girlfriends parents. Why would you be using thier lastnames or first names with them? Like what situation.? If I’m talking with them they usually start talking first and I chime in. Or I’ll start off the conversation saying “Hey, how are you?” and go from there.. They’ve always loved me all my b.fs parents I would be calling them mom in the end… So I know I have nevr disrespected them and was always polite around them.

Answer #13

Depends on how close/comfortable I am with them.

Answer #14

Try asking them what they want you to call them. It shows respect :) Personally I haven’t met my boyfriend parents yet but he’s met mine and I don’t know what he calls my father to his face but he just calls my mom by her first name and she’s never minded because she’s easy-going hint hint.

Answer #15

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 and 1/4 months and in all honestly, i dont htink i have ever called his parents anything :S I find everything awkward and avoid things like that. Unless i am close with the family (where i call them mom and dad) i dont call them anything, i avoide situations where you have to use one of their names :P

Answer #16

:P i think you read it wrong ;)

Answer #17

Aunt and Uncle are only used for your actual Aunts and Uncles :p like ‘AUNT Kim’ or ‘UNCLE Dan’ :P just saying

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