What is a good way to tell my little brothers that I'm pregnant?

10 and 13

Instead of making it all about you and your pregnancy focus on the fact that they will now be Uncles to your child when its born. It will help if the don’t feel as if your leaving them behind and starting a new life…make them feel important and included and tell them how much they mean to you and what great uncles they will be.

I am their guardian so even if I left they would be with me. And even if I said that they would still make it seem like the time with them would lessen.

a good way to tell your brothers you are pregnant is to wait until they are in a god money then u drop it on them like a bomb

What??

Stasha, don’t bother looking for a “right” way to tell them that will make them happy about it from the beginning. There’s probably no such thing. And they are probably right that it will affect their relationship(s) with you in some way, though not entirely predictable how.

The important things are to allow them all their fears and feelings about it, to reassure them that you will continue to be there for them no matter what, and to include them in the whole process as much as possible right from the beginning. Let them help you pick out baby stuff to buy, ask their ideas about a name, let them feel the kicking when it starts - whatever aspects can be made most fun for them. Engage their curiosity about pregnancy and birth and how bodies change. Help them begin to get emotionally invested in being uncles, as Mandyloo said, even before the birth. Have the same kind of patience with them as you will need them to have with your child and you later on.

k hunny,, right..

a) you’re pregnant, you are going to be a mum, and trust me, when that baby starts kicking, and comes out… really that baby will be your one true focus.

b) your brothers, you love them deeply, maybe you feel responsible for them? regardless of that, you will be taking on a role that overrides it.. you should not feel guilty about it, and not feel you have let them down.

as someone said, it very much depends on their age.

as hayyim said, there si no right way, like any huge decision or announcement you make in your life, later, you will think of a million different ways it ‘could have gone’..

i have a big and little brother, and i had different concerns when i told both whe i was going to be a mum.. my eldest brother, my concern was i felt i had let him down? that HE looked at me like a little girl, and the realisation that i was having a baby? completely contradicted with the ‘baby sister’ image.. my little brother? oh ,eh gawd.. i told my brother how to kiss his firstt girlfriend.. i felt very much like his surrogate mum, and his friend.

the fact of it is… you need to explain more about you, your brothers situation and the kind of relationship that you have, the environment you live in? personal message anyone here you feel comfortable with..

but rest assured.. you are going to be a mummy, and if you are close with your brothers, and you care this much about their reactions? then you are closer to being responsible for a baby.. basically, you are already putting other peoples feelings first?

if you don’t reply, then cool… but just remember.. a few things..

inform, reassure and be confident.. believe me, people draw on others confidence. if it ‘seems’ you ‘know’ what you’re doing? then people will have faith in you..

good luck.. a baby is a wonderful thing. support it well, financially, emotionally, psychologically and physically. and relax, you are looking are two people now! :D x x x

10 AND 13? then just sit down with them, they are going to be naturally protective, curious and uncertain of pending changes. the key is really to just reassure them..

in all honesty tho, at these ages, they are very much black and white, things are still relatively simple.. just explain to them the situation with you and the dad. but as long as THEY feel you are happy, then they will feed off that,

Ok will do.

Stasha, the last part of what Sooitca said here is great advice. Keep letting them know how happy you are about it, and keep inviting (not pressuring) them to come inside your happiness with you and share it. Love and happiness are contagious!