How can I be with him without feeling used?

hahah, mannnnnn…This is a difficult for me…When I went to go visit my friends in Germany this summer to train for cycling.. where I met a boy, Markus who also bikes on the team. Got along real well and hung out a few times..he really attracted me.. love his hair, he smells good :-P he’s freaking talllllll (6”4) he’s funny…man all around.

I went back to Germany again during Winter break, we spent a lot of time together and that’s when I lost it to him..I don’t regret it..everything was fine after and he promised me we’d keep in touch when I leave, but when I got back to the U.S he wasn’t talking much to me..

I noticed after a month he got a girlfriend and he IM’d me saying are we going to be friends? and I’m like thinking.. “ is he trying to make sure that he doesn’t lose me, just in case “ my god……because I’m actually moving back to Germany anyway in the summer to pursue my cycling career, and train with my team and coaches,

but when I go back to Germany it’s like I want to be with him because I know when we are around eachmother it’s perfect, but I don’t wanna seem like “ oh you can have me whenever you want “ it’s so hard for me what should I do?

Show him that I have control now and keep our friendship on the DL or work things out?..I don’t wanna feel used hmmmmmm give me some good advice on this one!